i dont know why i get mad
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by tp2287 » Thu Apr 14, 2005 4:06 am
i dont know why get so mad at my gf... i hate it ...i cant understand.... i want her to be happy but whenever she goes do something....i come with her with questions and it is not like ur cheating on me or anything..its like i told her earlier before she went out to grab something to eat and she said yeah..but then she came so late and i dont know one thing led to another....and now im at risk of losin it cause this is a frequent thing that happens...she thinks that im controling her and i dont let her do anything she wants.. i mean all i want to see is her to be happy so if any body could help me out please do so because i dont want to loose her
by Annabell » Tue Apr 19, 2005 7:34 am
tp2287,
Hi,
Welcome to the forum.
It would be good if you told us more about your relationship and about the situations in which you get angry with your girlfriend. Is it when she is 'letting you down' by not doing what you expect or doing things differently than you expect? Because that IS controlling behaviour and it does have its roots in insecurity. I am saying this without knowing you and your situation of course.
You must rememeber that it is your girlfriend who decides what makes her happy, not you. Happiness together in a relationship comes from doing this for one another, doing things together - and also from doing things that make YOU happy. The same way, sometimes your girlfriend wants to do something that is for HER - such as having a night out with her friends and so on. As long as you have rules in your relationship and you both agree on them and respect them, there is nothing wrong with independency.
What do you think?
Hi,
Welcome to the forum.
It would be good if you told us more about your relationship and about the situations in which you get angry with your girlfriend. Is it when she is 'letting you down' by not doing what you expect or doing things differently than you expect? Because that IS controlling behaviour and it does have its roots in insecurity. I am saying this without knowing you and your situation of course.
You must rememeber that it is your girlfriend who decides what makes her happy, not you. Happiness together in a relationship comes from doing this for one another, doing things together - and also from doing things that make YOU happy. The same way, sometimes your girlfriend wants to do something that is for HER - such as having a night out with her friends and so on. As long as you have rules in your relationship and you both agree on them and respect them, there is nothing wrong with independency.
What do you think?
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by morbidfox » Sun May 01, 2005 12:39 am
by doing what you're doing--which is keeping a watch over her like a hawk isn't gonna make her be happy. you say you want her to be happy...but its you who really wants to be happy, and by doing that you do in a way you want to be in "control" with wat she does for the fear of getting hurt. the best thing to do and thatll make her happy is if you give your confidence in her...let go a bit. i'm not guranteeing that she'll stay with you forever, but it sounds like ur afraid she'll go out and cheat on you. life is long, you still have lots of it to live.
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