How To Stop Acting Tough

well, why do you think you do it? did something happen when you were younger (getting bullied, bad experience etc) that made you feel this way or did you learn it from someone as a defense mechanism? maybe you should write down a list of things that happened or when and why you seem to do it, im sure you arent this way around everyone all the time possibly because you feel more secure with them and dont have to do this. its nice that you are aware of it, so now you can start taking actions to not do it, especially before getting into a bad fight or road rage or saying something to someone you didnt mean beyond repair and learning the hard way. trust me when i say it is better to learn now, you dont want to get charges pressed or getting into a bad fight for your own safety as well not to sound nosey. if you are more mellow things will go your way more, i tend to get all mad deep inside, hold it in then blow up later and people think im nuts (im a girl and learned to be super nonconfrontational, but i feel angry inside quite a bit). i also think the strongest men are the ones that are tough just by presence because they know they are confident, if you know you are tough you dont need to prove it your energy and presence will say much more and people will respect you for it. there will always be jerks in life but staying calm and not getting angry actuall makes them more mad lol but makes you look like a saint cool and collected. remember that.

I wouldn't say I was bullied in school but I have had problems with my father, we have had a lot of fights, more fights than actual father-son moments, I can remember everything he done to me so clearly and it annoys me because I feel that's why my life took a walk down this road and not the road I wanted if you get what I mean. For instance all my friends are nice, caring guys, my best mate even goes church that is the type of guy I want to be but I'm always restricted and can never do stuff like going church because it feels like something is stopping me, the earlier my dad ever hit me was when I was just a little kid (6 years old) my older sister spilt toothpaste on the toilet seat and he thought it was me and smashed my head on the sink, little stuff like that is what causes him to do it, he has problems I swear f***ed in the head. Not a day goes past in my house when him and my mum don't argue, he doesn't work he just sits at home watching TV and demanding stuff he will be in the kitchen come out and ask someone to make him something to eat.

having a walk around

Going to house

Have a walk out

Calling mother ok

Calling mother

Talked to mother she is at airport

Walking mode

wtf are u on about

The acting tough thing is just an ego thing. It might frighten people, it might even frighten yourself, but it can never bring you happiness. Being kinder, more grateful, more caring, more friendly, more forgiving will dissolve it and make your life more enjoyable and there may be some resistance if you choose to change.

I can relate. I was a bit of a meat head in high school and was involved in more fights than I care to disclose. It wasn't until college when I met the first person, my age, to ever challenge me - my best friend. We didn't get off on the right foot, but we ended up being thick as thieves. We met... wait for it... in a fight. It was frosh week and I thought I had something to prove. He was the one person who actually said to me "we can fight and you'll be labeled "the bruiser on campus". Or, we can not fight and I could reinvent myself for the rest of my life". I chose the latter and have never regretted it. Being the tough guy all the time is tiring. And, the real bitch about it is that there will always be someone waiting in the wings to test just how tough you are. You're better off just being a decent person, trust me.