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**Posts:** 4 · by **KGM** » Sat Sep 13, 2014 9:13 pm

I am new to this forums so please bare with me as I try to learn things.

I cannot control my anger. I've been with my boyfriend over 5 years. Just in the past year since our special needs child has been born, have things really gone downhill.

I hit him numerous times today. I have previously as well. Thrown things at him etc...

Today was the worst. He got in my face, so I literally beat him up.

We have our issues, he isn't perfect either, and I know it's not right to say this, but he pushes me to that point. He's never hit me. However he has punched holes in the wall, or thrown/ broken things too.

I'm a good mom, I've never hit my kids, but I do yell and get frustrated with them a lot.

I don't have time to read books I'm a very busy person with very little help. But somehow I need help with this.

I also don't need judgement, I know what I've done is horribly wrong. I've asked him to charge me with domestic violence hoping that will teach me a lesson, but he is ignoring me, and rightfully so.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun Sep 14, 2014 3:10 am

KGM wrote:I don't have time to read books I'm a very busy person with very little help. But somehow I need help with this.
so.

It sounds like one area you might be struggling with is priorities. I understand any child, let alone a special needs child can be time consuming and exhausting. I also understand needing to make a living is time consuming. Other than childcare and work, what is more important than taking care of the anger issues?

**Posts:** 4 · by **KGM** » Sun Sep 14, 2014 3:12 am

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:
KGM wrote:I don't have time to read books I'm a very busy person with very little help. But somehow I need help with this.
so.

It sounds like one area you might be struggling with is priorities. I understand any child, let alone a special needs child can be time consuming and exhausting. I also understand needing to make a living is time consuming. Other than childcare and work, what is more important than taking care of the anger issues?

I'm not sure I understand this?
I have no childcare and cannot work due to my sons medical issues.
My two oldest kids to attend school however. But Jett is a constant. Only me and my boyfriend are trained in his care, so I literally never get a break to do anything to better myself.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun Sep 14, 2014 4:11 am

KGM wrote:I have no childcare and cannot work due to my sons medical issues. Only me and my boyfriend are trained in his care...

So then when your trained boyfriend takes care of Jeff, you have free time, no?

**Posts:** 4 · by **KGM** » Sun Sep 14, 2014 4:15 am

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:
KGM wrote:I have no childcare and cannot work due to my sons medical issues. Only me and my boyfriend are trained in his care...

So then when your trained boyfriend takes care of Jeff, you have free time, no?

That's the problem, when my boyfriend isn't at work, he is too tired to give me anytime to do anything for myself.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sun Sep 14, 2014 8:09 am

Your mental health and your physical health are intimately related, with that in mind can you answer some questions?

Are you eating the right amount of healthy food? (no junk)
Are you drinking the right amount of healthy drinks? (no alcohol, caffeine, fizzy)
Are you taking the right amount of healthy exercise?
Are you getting a good balance between work, rest and play?

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