Recently broke up with depressed girlfriend!

**Posts:** 1 · by **User840** » Sun Jun 11, 2017 7:15 pm

Hi, I'm new to this but have to come looking for help as I'm unsure what to do or how to deal with my current situation. My girlfriend suffers depression and she normally takes meds and sees a therapist. A few weeks ago she decided to stop taking the meds and stop seeing the therapist. Everything seemed fine for a bit then the last couple of weeks have been hell, she's so distant and won't even see me etc. She's told me shes been feeling low recently and had an appointment to see the therapist again (which she didn't turn up for). She's told me she loves me and wants to be with me but she just ignores me sometimes when she's blatantly still on her phone and seems perfectly fine with all her friends! I have my own issues with trusting people and letting people close to me as a previous girlfriend cheated on me behind my back and its never really gone away. My girlfriend has now been bringing up this trust issue saying she feels trapped etc cause i dont like her having boy mates and stuff. I want to get over my issues but it takes time I'm just worried that this is not the depression thats making her be so distant to me but not to others and that its actually just her that doesnt want to be with me despite her telling me "I've never said that". Just the way she tells me she needs space and wants to go on a break and doesn't even reply to me sometimes makes me think differently.
Any advice? Feel kind of helpless and I genuinely just want to be there for her but I feel like my pestering has pushed her away during her time of depression because I've mistook it for her being uninterested in me now. Basically as it stands I finished with her yesterday because she was telling me she doesnt feel the same and didnt even want to reply to me. I feel like she's blaming me for feeling down but she won't go to see her therapist or anything! I don't know whats going on and I care about her so much i just cant understand how in person just this Tuesday she can be so clingy and wouldn't let me be if i wasnt holding her hand etc but the day later "doesnt fee the same"

**Posts:** 22 · by **hopefulcheese** » Mon Jun 12, 2017 2:43 am

Hi user,

There doesn't seem to be a lot of activity in this forum, you may want to check out depressionfallout forums -- it is meant for people with depressed significant others.

I read that depressed people would still hang out with others because they can keep it superficial. There's not much emotions involved. Whereas if they interact with their loved ones, it can be intense and is too much for them to handle. As for your trust issues, you need to decide how much you can give cuz if she is indeed depressed, then she will need a lot of your support. It will take a lot of emotional strength from you (i.e. giving her space when she asks for it, being understanding and patient, letting her know that you are there for her despite her ignoring you). You can read more about this on the forum I mentioned earlier.. just google it.

**Posts:** 6 · by **in_limbo_land** » Tue Jun 13, 2017 8:29 pm

Not sure what to advice you. Usually I would say: just acknowledge that it is over and start healing. But now that I am dealing with a similar issue and a depressed partner... I totally understand that you don't want to give up. It feels like there is still a chance if you can love her and give her space at the same time. That is mostly the advice I read on this forum: make sure she knows you are there for her but don't push it.

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