Is humor the best way to go?

I appreciate your replies JuliusFawcett.. but I'm starting to think that my laughter isn't working to make me feel better.

I think that my laughter sometimes makes my emotions worse.


I think what I need to do is stay calm and not get overly excited.

Julius, you assume happiness is always there? So when someone has suffered childhood abuse they can just laugh it off. In those situations happiness is not there and it feels humiliating to put a coating of laughter on years of abuse.

it's_a_me is saying that it feels false and indignifying. Their other postings indicate that this is not a reactive situation, it runs pretty deep (you may not have read them).

Yes, happiness is always there, it's a natural state, this baby has not been taught this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HttF5HVYtlQ

it's that we are taught not to be like this.

Julius. There is a time for humour and there is a time when laughter simply isn't appropriate or helpful. Coming to terms with a difficult situation requires resolution. Laughing and joking about it cannot gain this. To become happy can involve some hard work. It is not an automatic response.

It's good to know what the end game is

Yes, Julius, it's even better to know constructive and realistic ways to get there. Some never get there. Are you saying that had they laughed themselves through their journey, they would have got there?

I am saying explore many options to find full mental and physical health, they are, of course, intimately related.

So the right amount of healthy food (no junk),
the right amount of healthy drinks (no alcohol, caffeinated or fizzy)
the right amount of healthy exercise
a good balance between work, rest and play
choosing consistently positive thought patterns
counting your blessings
being open to fun, laughter and dancing
trust your inner wisdom
small gestures of human kindness - a smile, a hug, a gift, a compliment, a helping hand, a word of encouragement, a silent blessing
Looking after your personal appearance and living environment

These are a sample of some of the main areas that are healthy living

But they have very little to do with the original point.

On the contrary, they are all intrinsically related and absolutely connected to the original point.

And it's_a_me's point is that they are feeling worse about it.

Negative thought patterns sometimes show resistance to positive change towards happiness, it's just a little resistance, we can carry on the path of consistent happiness and laughter

The road to happiness can be long and winding. To just laugh problems off can inflict denial and deeper pain. A little realism and perspective is needed Julius. To confront and resolve situations can lead to happiness and laughter. Laughter isn't always the best remedy

Forgiveness and acceptance are also key teachings. The past is over, you don't need to confront it, it is not real, it is gone, it is over. The future is also an imagination, dream a beautiful dream and it can become true Only this moment is real. If you are completely open to happiness you can have it now, in this moment, the only place that you ever live, celebrate what this now has for you and you can end suffering instantly.

JuliusFawcett wrote:Forgiveness and acceptance are also key teachings. The past is over, you don't need to confront it, it is not real, it is gone, it is over.

I can only forget about the past once I have an understanding of what happened and what is wrong with my brain. I can't forget about it. I need to worry for my health.

JuliusFawcett wrote:The future is also an imagination, dream a beautiful dream and it can become true Only this moment is real.

The future is very uncertain for me. I need to know what I have before I can stop worrying as much about the future. I could die tomorrow or today. I need to be able to rule out the possibility of death before I can relax.

JuliusFawcett wrote:If you are completely open to happiness you can have it now, in this moment, the only place that you ever live, celebrate what this now has for you and you can end suffering instantly.

It's really hard for me to celebrate this moment when I'm trying to find a place where I can go for help and trying to convince my parents to pay for some of my health expenses even though they want me dead. My father tried really hard not to laugh when I asked him if he could lend me some money to pay for health expenses.


I called a neurologist out of state to see if they could attend me. The lady who answered my call was suspicious of me. It seems that the only way I can see a neurologist and have him/her give me proper service would be to go to an emergency room and lie about what happened to me so they then can then give me a referral to a neurologist. She must have been suspicious because it seems that most people after having gone through a stroke would immediately call 911 and go to an ER. Even if I happen to go to an ER, the person that will tend to me there will be suspicious because I am showing symptoms of a stroke 6 months after it happened. The person that would tend to me in the ER would inspect me and probably notice if I lied about he onset of my stroke. I think that I might just have to accept the fact that I will probably not get treatment and death will always be a possibility in every waking (and sleeping) moment of my life. My life has probably been shortened because of the damage that has been done to me. I don't deserve this. I want my parent and the other people involved that made this happen to me to suffer. They laugh at my pain. THEY NEED TO SUFFER JUST LIKE I HAVE.

Them suffering (getting even) won't help your situation, but it's often a gut reaction in cases like this.