Is humor the best way to go?

If you wish for other people to suffer, it will not bring you happiness, only more suffering.

Worry will not bring you happiness either, worry is the opposite of happiness.

Concentrate on what is right with your brain and it will grow, there clearly is a good deal that is healthy about your brain

Dreaming a compelling future will help you to manifest that as a reality.

The future is uncertain for everyone, that is why choosing to live happily in this moment is so powerful towards creating consistent happiness.

You can help yourself, you can be the parent that you wish for, you can be your own best friend, your body knows how to heal itself, relax, eat, drink, and exercise healthily, but most of all forgive the people around you, there is nothing personal in the way they are treating you, it is just their own conditioning, they could not possibly have given you unconditional love if they did not know that love for themselves. Love is the healing force, accept yourself for who you are, accept this moment and your parents as perfect for this moment and know that we are always changing, when we change with love in our hearts, the changes are always for the better, always.

Love1 is not love2. Julius may be referring to innate love;infatuation is mistaken for love.
Divorces and 'falling-out-of love' was not real love.
You say; "Why don't we experience it always"? Because it's like innate wisdom; insights 'come from' there. We infer innate wisdom until a insight arrives from 'there' as a effect. Only then can we be sure innate wisdom exists and confirms our inference.

It's a me,
First go to a GP, not one you have used before. I don't know if you have to pay for this service where you are, if so, I hope it is not too expensive. Describe your symptoms and ask to be referred to a neurologist. If the GP has and inkling of a notion that you may have ever suffered a stroke, he/she will refer you ASAP. Waiver your suspicions. Allow yourself to trust their judgement. This is your first step. Keep it simple.
Julius, when faced or trying to deal with serious trauma, a range of emotions occur naturally. Like grieving, trauma can leave a person with similar affects (denial, anger depression etc.). These emotions need to be released and not masked.
Yes, at the end of the day we would all love to be consistently happy, ever minute of every waking day, but this is just not realistic. Our emotions release hormones, just like laughter. They are healthy too. A balance is what one needs to achieve.
It's a me is battling serious demons and putting on a happy face will just not cut it. I would even say that it is a rather naive notion. I do agree however that some issues in life should be let go of in order to reach happiness, but I believe those are the little things that bug us on a daily basis.
Asking people to forgive themselves and those who inflicted harm on them is a tall ask in most cases. Every situation is different and I think this maybe lost on you. The selection of mantras you use are comforting to some but patronising to others.
Eg. No amount of healthy food will give It's a me solace. She could run for miles and not get any relief. Cutting out that coffee in the morning will not give her the happy face you believe she is ready for. It is just not going to happen.
Do I think It's a me will ever be happy? I am positive she will but there is work to be done, doctors and counsellors to see. This could take time. It's a me... I believe you can get there!!!

I'm a guy. Thanks for skimming over my posts gwen.

Your choice of words to describe how I feel about JuliusFawcett's mantras is incorrect. I don't see them as patronizing. I just don't see them as appropriate all the time. I really appreciate his show of concern though and his effort.

Oops! Got caught in the moment. I knew speed reading would be my down fall

Of course it is impossible for me to know which mantras would be most appropriate for you. At the same time, I am hugely confident that forgiveness will free you from the burden of resentment that you are so ready to tell us that you are carrying. I don't blame you for carrying resentment, you could have been treated with so much more kindness. Imagine how different your life could have been with model parents and then realise that nearly nobody on this forum had access to that kind of beautiful upbringing.

I am also massively convinced of healthy living as a foundation for consistent happiness, I would be highly sceptical of someone offering a drug based solution to your particular challenges without talking about junk food, caffeine, alcohol, exercise, a balanced life and self respect.

I have referred to Julius's posts before and regarded them as very helpful. I am not presuming I know what goes on in your mind it's a me but although meant in the greatest of sincerity, good will does not solve all mental suffering. It is an impossible feat. To simply forget your past, live a healthy lifestyle and move on, just doesn't work in most cases.
Now, if I was angry with someone because they mocked and made fun of my short comings when I was young (or something to that effect), then yes, I would think that Julius's words rang through and I should forgive them and make the most of my life, without worrying about the past. But, if I was truly affected by pain and suffering I would want to feel what I feel, understand why I feel this way and then work on trying to resolve and unload the burden, before I consider forgiveness and just moving on with my life. And yes, of course whilst enduring conflicting emotions and trying to understand why I feel the way I do, I would have moments of happiness, times when I laugh at something inane and random, experience love and appreciate the beauty of the world around me. But, would I be truly happy?
It's a me, I did not focus on your other posts as I had read them a while back and I did not make a specific note if you were male or female. Don't hold it against me as I am here to help and although you are suspicious of most people, please do not let this cloud your judgement.
If you have ever suffered a stroke or any physical ailment, any GP can help you on the road to recovery (if you let them). You need professional help. Period.

It's a subtle difference, but an important distinction I would like to clarify, I do not say forget the past, I say forgive the past hurts and let it go and the power will wane from them and they will leave. It is the distinction between denial and acceptance

Julius, whilst you advise "to forgive the past", how would it's_a_me do this?

All in the mind wrote:Julius, whilst you advise "to forgive the past", how would it's_a_me do this?

Here's one way

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSLascxmUBE

I hope this helps.

I just noticed that my muscle atrophy is getting progressively worse and I am getting weaker. I hope it stops at a certain point. I don't know if I'll live much longer.

May I ask, what are you doing in terms of exercise and diet?

My diet is very poor and I can't do exercise because my muscles give out. It's starting to look bleak for me.

Do you know about healthy eating and healthy drinking?

Do you have the opportunity to get fresh fruit and vegetables? (or even canned or frozen)

Even walking can be good exercise, especially in a natural environment with trees and wildlife. Can you do some walking?

JuliusFawcett wrote:Do you know about healthy eating and healthy drinking?

Yeah, I know about it.

JuliusFawcett wrote:Do you have the opportunity to get fresh fruit and vegetables? (or even canned or frozen)

No, I don't sadly.

JuliusFawcett wrote:Even walking can be good exercise, especially in a natural environment with trees and wildlife. Can you do some walking?

I'm too weak to walk.