theforsaken wrote:If I drink and it's not a big occasion, she's on my case to slow down literally on my second drink. I might have a slight problem sure, I can admit that, but she makes out it's the end of the f***in world if I have a drink or two.
I'm about to differ from the general drift of this thread. I'm a meat-eating smoker and drinker married to a vegetarian Buddhist who does neither. On just one occasion he came into a restaurant where I was dining with a male friend and demanded to know whether the guy intended to let me cycle home in that condition. The friend and I were sitting there like a pair of stuffed owls so on that occasion, and that one only, he was right to intervene.
I know from previous threads that before your marriage you lived in smalltown Australia where drinking and carousing of the young men was just a social thing you guys did.
A few years down the track you're married to a nurse who knows what alcohol does to brain as well as body, and naturally she worries about it getting out of hand. I get that. I also get it that the rebel in you is well accustomed to handling his drink, and I agree with Richard that a grown man has to be able to run his own life. I get the feeling you drink less now anyway.
My husband knows I'm probably going to smoke and drink until the day I die and he's totally okay with buying either or both for me. When the World Cup was on and my preferred beer was "on special", he bought half a dozen cartons and kept them in the garage. Woo hoo.
It's about trust and respect, and that comes with time and exposure. It would be a different story if your personality changed and you got nasty with her when you had too much, but I don't think that's your style.
My husband informs me I'm nasty pretty much all the time and he can take it...