Not happy with my job. Should I quit?

calmy12 wrote:Today, D approached me in a nice friendly manner but it turned out he just wanted to chase up for his o/t payments that he forgot to indicate on the timesheets. Looks like I will get in trouble again from the finance manager because I didn't pick up his o/t hours.

If it wasn't your fault, then stand up for yourself! I doubt if you will though... and these things will continue to happen, you'll continue to feel walked all over and so the cycle goes on.

Every time I come home from work, I feel a sense of sadness and loneliness invading my mind and my body.

Yes, because you won't go out and meet people - only you can do something about that.

In my current job, I'm still a casual worker, working for 5 days. The last two jobs, I was also a casual worker. i don't have the luxuries like what other people have ie taking leaves or claiming o/t hours.

I don't believe it matters whether you are a casual worker, the tea girl or a top manager - do your job with passion and gusto and I reckon you will make a difference to someone somewhere. That doesn't mean you deserve to be walked all over though - ever.

My parents keep telling me to leave.

What do YOU want?

But all jobs are the same.

They'll only be the same if you let it. Get out of your comfort zone!

I treat all my collegues at work as if they were part of my family. That's why I keep buying things without asking my money back and stayed back for free just to tidy up the office.

It isn't your colleagues who benefits though is it? It's whoever owns the company - and my guess is that they don't even know you're doing it.

I don't know what I'm doing to myself. I don't know how to escape from this situation and from D.

I think you do, though it is too comfortable to stay as you are.
I suggest you seek some kind of counselling to deal with your issues and, if / when you decide you can, start treating D as a friendly work colleague.
I wish you well.

it's sad to know the guy I have fallen in love with is not my ideal guy after all.
In my eyes, D is good looking, but his uncaring, selfish personality really frustrates me.

A collegue told me that D had dumped his former girlfriend and married to one within a year. He also told me that D is lazy and likes to use people for his advantage. And when he no longer sees that person useful, he would ignore them.

Every time, I see him leave work early without saying goodbye to me or the rest of the staff in the office. He's NOT into me. I just wish I could wake up.


Work is given me stress. A staff got frustrated at me in front of everyone. It was a humiliating experience because D was around.


A New manager started work today and he looks very strict and mean. Its kind of scary to have a new boss who doesn't smile and always put on a serious face.

Maybe you could look to change for another job?

D was chatting to the new manager about his newly wed wife and that they both are planning to move to a different area. He's thinking of leaving the company next year.

At work, I didn't check the paperwork properly. I trusted my collegue when he handed me the paperwork. Hate myself for making a mistake like this. As a result, the plan for this project had to be postponed.

when i got into the car after work, i stared at the gloomy sky for 10 mins before I drove home. I felt sad. Why is it that the person I like doesn't like me back or care about me? How come he's what I had imagined to be.

Just wish he was a caring person, but he's not. Life's just not fair. If I could just wish for something.. I wish it was me who D had fallen in love with and that he was a caring person.

maybe get another job?

i'm planning to leave once i find another job. I have been doing job hunting, but i don't know exactly what i want to do in life and what i'm good at.

The only way to forget about D is for me to leave this company, and I have to do it fast..

All you would really like is to be happy in this moment. Are you willing to change?

The auditors came today to see how our company operates. They inspect our vehicles. Turned out one of the 6 were over due for servicing.

While I was in charge of taking care of arranging our vehicles for servicing, I have another colleague helping me out with arranging a service for the other vehicle.Since he didn't receive money from the manager, he didn't go ahead with the servicing.

Now my colleague is putting the blame on me saying that he "told" me this in the past. When I tried to reason out to him, he wouldn't listen and still thinks it's my mistake. I still don't think it was my mistake. He was tasked to look after that vehicle for servicing and he should have followed up with it or remind the manager to give him the money.

So, tomorrow wouldn't be a nice day for me. looks like I'm going to get yelled at by my boss. I've been making mistakes at work and it's all because I trusted people to do their part properly.

There's no real friends. Just like the other day, a staff told me she wants to look after the grocery shopping for our kitchen. So I let her take care of it. This means, I don't need to do the shopping before I come into work.
Tody, my new boss complimented her for doing the shopping during her spare time.

This is tiring. Just realized how cruel the workplace can be. People will do anything, even betraying their friends just to protect their job/position etc.

If the boss yells at you, you can remind yourself that it is only noise. Forgiveness, acceptance and surrender are very powerful tools in maintaining inner peace.

are you feeling okay julius?

I am feeling wonderful, thanks for asking. How are you?