communication with mother

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Fri Oct 06, 2017 7:55 am

Good morning..I have a concern that o want to share. It's my mother she came to visit me at my home a week ago when she came my mental health rapidly deteriorated that happened when her visit before the last one too that made me think she somehow causes deterioriation at my mental health and decided to limit contact with her now I talk to her day after at phone the problem is if I'm wrong I don't want want to upset her without a reason what say you should I be on limited contact?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sat Oct 07, 2017 4:40 pm

Your mother, or anyone else, should not be pushed away or punished because you have mental issues.

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Sat Oct 07, 2017 4:43 pm

I like my mother wouldn't like to push her away the problem is she may be damaging my mental health subconsciously or by outside influence

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Sat Oct 07, 2017 4:44 pm

I'm on a dilemma to cal her

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:13 pm

I'm missing my mother will it be too bad if I call her?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:54 pm

desperate788 wrote:I'm missing my mother will it be too bad if I call her?

Your mother is not an illegal drug. Your mother is a human, with feelings just like you. You are missing her. That is an emotion. How do you think she feels with you pushing her away and blaming her for your problems?

Think about her, not you.

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Thu Oct 12, 2017 5:59 pm

I don't want to upset her just think our relation may be toxic

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:22 pm

desperate788 wrote:...just think our relation may be toxic

That is for you to decide. No one else can decide for you.

**Posts:** 1554 · by **laureat** » Mon Oct 16, 2017 2:33 am

Never forget the sacrifice of your parents:

- they was there when you could not feed oneself
- they was there when you could not wash oneseld

Now i dont mean to guilt trip you; however, You cant tell your mother visit is giving you headache ; thats too much, you should be more thankful than that ,

I have a 2 years old daughter and i sacrifice alot for her: i dont expect too much from her when she grows up, but telling me that she dont want me to visit her would hurt alot

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Mon Oct 16, 2017 7:44 am

I don't want to her really but I sense some weird things happen to me when she visits me my health deteriorates I don't know what happens to me while I sleep I don't want to risk my health when progress is so hard to achieve

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Mon Oct 16, 2017 7:44 am

I don't want to her really but I sense some weird things happen to me when she visits me my health deteriorates I don't know what happens to me while I sleep I don't want to risk my health when progress is so hard to achieve

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Mon Oct 16, 2017 8:01 am

I don't call her lately either don't know if I'm doing good by that I don't want to hurt her she was nice to me mostly she says she cares me a lot all the time I think that's mostly genuine there is some tricky situation here I think I really don't know

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Mon Dec 11, 2017 2:05 pm

Considering to invite my mother for a month I'm sinking need support what say you is it the right thing when I have so deep communication probs with my mother

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Mon Dec 11, 2017 2:50 pm

Desperate, I know you have problems and wish there was more than just advice to give. But, this is a forum and it is intended for advice, nothing more.

If I’m your mother, I say no. You call when you need me, but otherwise I’m no good for you? You invite me for a month for your benefit?

You are being selfish. You want a mother to support you under your terms, but don’t want to communicate with her. That is not fair to her. Leave her alone. Deal with whatever issues without involving her.

**Posts:** 41697 · by **desperate788** » Mon Dec 11, 2017 3:06 pm

Yes I think so too it's selfish but I'm her son that she says she loves very much she would make a little sacrifice in this case wouldn't she anyways I won't invite her but for an other selfish reason to be honest I can't trust what's going on while I'm sleeping when she is around I have support from ucf and that's enough thank you

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