Family being split up

**Posts:** 1 · by **CloudyOutlook** » Sun Jul 12, 2020 9:00 pm

My mum has decided she wants to move my sisters back to Australia to live with my Dad so they can ‘actually get an education’, because apparently the school they’re going to isn’t setting them enough work during COVID. She also wants to keep her and me over here, since I’m going to a good college in September and she can finish her certificate. My sisters like the idea, since there is a special environmental school over there for one of them who is interested in that, and a math and science school for the other. They also probably miss their old friends.
Mum has told me that I can leave too, and if I want to leave we can all go back. I miss Australia, granted, and my friends there, but the course I want to do for Computer Science is over here and Australia doesn’t have much in terms of that. Plus I’ve made friends over here. I was planning to go back for uni, but stay the final two years here. But now it seems that’ll split everyone up, and I’d really miss my sisters. Not that they’d miss me, but I just hate the idea of them going.
I don’t know what to do, I really don’t. I’m going to be upset either way, but I hate the idea of our family being torn in two. However, it just seems to be me that feels this way. And Mum thinks this is me being overdramatic and selfish again and it isn’t really a big deal.
But either way I’ve got a decision to make, and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun Jul 12, 2020 9:18 pm

CloudyOutlook wrote: I’m going to be upset either way, but I hate the idea of our family being torn in two.

It is a great thing that your family in no way shape or form is being "torn in two". That would be painful. Lucky for you that isn't happening.

Families that actually are torn in two don't have a choice in the matter. It isn't a decision. In 1953 families were torn apart as North and South Korea signed a peace treaty. For nearly 70 years families have been unable to reunite. In 1961 the Soviet Union built a wall between East and West Berlin. For nearly 30 years families torn apart were unable to reconnect.

And the above was before air travel was economical and the Internet was available. You are fortunate. You don't have to handwrite a letter and wait for weeks or months to hear back. You don't even have to use a phone connected to a landline. No...you live in an age where in an instant you can talk with family via video halfway across the world.

This allows a family to pursue lots of great things in life. One person can go to college in the UK, while another lives in the United States, and yet others live in Australia. Over the decades members of a family visit each other, stay in contact with video chats, and talk with each other almost every single day. I know my family does and we don't live in the same city.

In other words, your mother is correct. You need to use this opportunity to grow, to mature, to reframe how you think about the concept of family. Use this time to learn.

**Posts:** 12 · by **HowardWow1997** » Tue Aug 25, 2020 3:14 pm

I'm sorry for you

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