Advise on my cannabis-feeling trapped

For the IBS:
Change the diet; find on YouTube the robertmorsend channel, and also the John Rose channel.

For you quitting weed:
Move out of there. You'll need to distance yourself from people who smoke, as you say that you're susceptible to temptations. However, it sounds like your girlfriend is supporting you?

For her saying things need to change for her to change:
Change starts from the inside, from our thinking and the resulting emotions. Recognize that habitual actions stem from habitual thought patterns. Learn that thoughts are just thoughts, and they don't have to be believed in, they can pass on by and be replaced with other thoughts. Develop healthy thought habits. There are plenty of resources on the internet and elsewhere to help with this.

Hey jc101

First off, thanks for sharing your story with us! You have no idea how many people are in a similar situation like yours (including myself). I have recently stopped smoking myself, I am 29 and I have been smoking since I was 17.

Your head is in the right place, my man. I am just now reaching 7 days cannabis free, and I can already feel an incredible clarity.

Your description of how you feel on a day to day basis is bang on. It is a trap. Like a mental loop stuck on replay day to day. Fortunately for you, those feelings can be treated and things can and will get better if you choose to quit the bud.

As a fellow business owner myself, I can feel your pain. Business requires so much of our energy and focus. you are the not the first person to let weed get to you like that and you won't be the last. But you are here, asking for help and that my friend is absolutely an incredible first step to doing better. This is an incredible community of people who care about each other.

You sound sincere in your admission of this and you also sound like you care very much about your miss. My gf also smokes on a daily basis but fear not, there are ways that you both can help overcome this and here are some tips from me and my short experience.

quietvoices advice is very valid, one of the best ways to remove something from your life is to distance yourself from it, but in this case that might be a little extreme, however not farfetched. Distancing yourself form something you wish to avoid does not necessarily have to be so far that you never see each other again. for me and my gf, I have asked her to smoke on our back deck, without even mentioning it to me. So far it's working. She will see when I am highly concentrated on an activity where I won't notice her being gone and goes and hits a quick bong or she will take the dogs out herself and have a quick smoke (she is also trying hard to quit herself) She is an accountant and her job is also very stressful, so I can totally appreciate what your miss is going thru. retail is extremely stressful. but there are things that you can do to make things easier for her.

You mentioned that she has to deal with IBS, that is unfortunate. But you can also take proactive steps to be the one that creates an alternative healthy lifestyle for both of you. quietvoice is correct, IBS can be greatly reduced with the right diet - and it sounds like you are in a position to be the one that can help her with that. Perhaps while she is at work, research some recipes that help calm the IBS and prepare her an amazing meal when she gets home.
This will help her with stress by 1) coming home to a healthy meal she did not have to prepare herself after a long day at work (there is nothing like coming home to a meal) and 2) it will give show her that you truly deeply care about this relationship and you care about her health.You will be amazed at how a little bit of action is perceived by others. She will see that you are taking steps to make things better for both of you, and those feelings will reciprocate to her.

Another activity I found to be extremely rewarding is getting active. I signed up to the gym where we have many classes, bikes, and other activities in a group that make being active fun (and even made some new friends). These activities will take both your minds off of the smoke, it will give you HUGE shots of endorphins (something that weed is doing for you right now) but with much-noticed benefits. you will both feel better, look better and you will be happy that you are doing an activity together that is not cannabis related.

The most important thing when quitting weed is activity. When the mind is bored it wanders to the old habit. It wanders to help relieve itself of that boredom. You can fill your time with being the one that takes the first step towards a healthier, happier lifestyle. you can replace the endorphin cause pattern with weed with physical activity, you will literally sweat the weed out.

Depending on where you live, you may also suggest to your gf to talk to her doctor and see if she can get THC prescribed as a pill (yes its out there) it has very similar health effects that of Cannabis THC but without the smoke, it can help reduce the IBS discomfort. But diet is your best bet.

I hope this has helped you out, I know it's a long ready. Don't ever feel like you cant come here and make a post. I would not be able to produce such detailed answer for you a week ago, I promise you that, I would have just said **** it and went and got stoned. But not today. Not after quitting, it's a battle I'm determined to win and so far I am WINNING! and so can you. Feel free to post here daily if you have to about your progress I will always respond (or try my best to) but remember the most important thing is to be proactive in your activity and approach to this, become a leader in this quitting thing and she will follow. Good luck my friend!

PS: If int he first few days you feel like you can't sleep, go for a run or head to a kids park and do some pull-ups, do a pushup - anything to get yourself tired and get some natural endorphins going. You will be AMAZED at how well you feel and how quickly you will get tired!

EDIT: Unfortunately I am a new user and I not allowed to post direct links to simple homemade recipes, but a quick google of "Easy, simple IBS recipes" brings up pages upon pages of ideas.

Try bringing home some beer or a nice wine and relax like that honestly man if you got to get out of there if you would have expressed this to the one that you love and she just says I can't then it's never going to happen no matter how close you are with someone you cannot change them they have to want to change themselves cliche I know maybe take her out to dinner and have a serious serious conversation where she can't run and hide and smoke immediately when she gets home say what's going on to dinner right now no I have reservations don't even let her smoke get to dinner have a nice wine and honestly you have to give her an ultimatum but you have to be strong to you can't go back start with just like 2 days off a week make that commitment with her just throwing it out there man who knows anything