Inquiry Chronic Unexplainable Anger
Bhavna_patel480 wrote:Where are you going to stop this? where is this leading you? How far will it take you?
Why aren't we thinking about this?
A root cause of this should be brought out ....when I'm saying root cause ...its of the situations where we have no reason to get angry but we do get angry.
Has anyone thought about this?
Please tell me ...is it any sort of mental illness or just a mood swing which cannot be called normal.
Hi Mr. Patel,
You want to know about the Root Cause for Chronic Inexplicable Anger and Irritability. I should have written about This before, because, you are right, it is a very common problem.
Well, let’s get started. You have heard about “The Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back”, right? Now, of course a little dried piece of grass can’t snap a spinal column, but a ton of other stuff along with it can be quite buckling! The Accumulated Stresses of Life are like the Ton of Stuff we are carrying around, and the Silly Little Irrational Reasons why we get Angry and Irritable are the ‘Straws’. For instance, let’s say that you hate your Job, you hate your wife, you think your children are all a bunch of incorrigible brats, your car is ugly and it’s always breaking down and in the shop, you got hemorrhoids, and an itchy spot on your back won’t go away and is driving you crazy. THEN the Cat jumps up on the Table while you are reading your newspaper, and you get so mad you almost kill the poor thing. Well, it wasn’t the Cat that made you Angry… it was EVERYTHING that made you Angry.
The Pharmaceutical Companies recognize this problem and so they market these terrible pills (serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), like Paxel) which are only the least little bit marginally effective, if at all, but their many very bad side effects are almost certain. So you want to avoid Them. On the Street the Pills are much more effective – mostly narcotic strength pills, but they are very addictive (anything THAT effective Would Be Addictive, don’t you think?) and they are very illegal. Then a lot of people get Drunk a lot.
If you don’t want to drug yourself or stay drunk all the time, well, you have to learn to just tolerate your rotten life. At the Job, just do what the boss says and don’t worry about all his yelling and screaming. Smile at your Co-workers and don’t worry about all the Office Politics. Stop caring about whatever it is your wife is nagging you about, that is, don’t argue with her… let her say what she wants and then do what you what you were going to do anyway. Then move into your own room so you don’t have to worry about Her keeping you up at nights with her complaining. As for your Kids, tell them that you will only pay attention to them if they perfectly well behaved and civilized, and if they can’t manage that, then they are ‘on their own’. The Junky Car, the hemorrhoids, and that itchy spot, well, some things you just have to learn to be philosophical about.
The Best Way of dealing with Irritability due to Life Stress, is to Not Get In that Situation to begin with. For some reason nearly all Men get married and have Families. Now WHY on Earth would they do a ridiculous thing like That!? Wives and Kids are nearly always Very Stressful! They are Very Expensive to maintain, and after the first Five Minutes of Marriage Wives aren’t fun anymore. And with a Family to support, you can’t flit from one Job to another looking for the Best and Easiest One… you have to buckle down to the First Adequate Job that comes along and hope you don’t get fired, even if the Job makes you miserable. And then you should Live and Eat in a healthy way in order to minimize Health Problem Stress.
Hmmmm… am I forgetting anything?
Oh! To prove it isn’t a mental illness, well just think about the times when you have gotten a Break from it all. I remember times during my Family Days when I would get some Temporary Assignment and would have to go off to a Distant City for a couple of weeks All By Myself. I would pack up my Motorcycle and take off. Well, it was like I Died and Went to Heaven. It was SO Wonderful. No Family Stress and the Assignments generally only needed a Certified Guy to Stand Around and Watch (that was Me). I had a Perpetual Smile stuck to my face! An Alligator could have walked up and chomped into my leg and I would have reached down and patted its head and said “Good Boy”.
To prove it to yourself… see if you can go on a vacation – BY YOUR SELF. But don’t tell your Family it is a ‘vacation’. Tell them you have to visit your poor sick maiden aunt in Mumbai or whatever, and then just go where you think it will be Nice and Relaxing. Maybe some Spiritual Pilgrimage, as long as you don’t take it too seriously. Then see if that Irritability doesn’t go away for a bit.
Mr. Patel, let me know what you think.