compulsive overeating

You don't have to go over the hurts of the past if you choose not to. It's not necessary. You can if you would like to, we can cope with anything that you would like to tell us.

I am more interested in your answer to this question.

Outside of your weight, what would it take for you to be completely satisfied with your life?

The reason why I ask this is because of the link between substance abuse/food addiction and how to fix what you have been taught to believe is not good enough about your life.

The past is over, and we can let it go, we can create a more wonderful future with our current thought and learn to love this moment. In short, if you can find satisfaction in this ever present now, you will release the need to fix yourself with food, drugs or alcohol.

As you well know, forgiveness is the key, are you willing to forgive past hurts?

I cried when I read your post, because I was so happy I did not have to go over the past. I was not physically or sexually abused as a child. I was spanked but only like the rest of the world. My father had a mental illness that he refused to take medication for, so I am happy to leave it at that and focus on the present and future.
My father passed away about 15 years ago. Later, when I went through some hard times and developed severe depression, I understood that he could not help some of the things he said and did due to his illness. That led to me forgiving him. Lot's of pain in this life, relationships with people are difficult and fragile, hard to forgive everyone. But I have mostly, at least to the point of not dwelling on past hurts. I love the thought of dwelling on the present, sounds like something I have read about from great teachers.
I am intrigued by your question about being completely satisfied with my life? Big question, have to spend the day thinking about it. Thank you for making me think about things productive instead of a past I can not change.

There is great peace in accepting this moment as it is and recognising the perfection of this moment, the beauty of this moment. You have had it when you have been on drugs and you can learn to have the same straight.

Day 7, walked 20 minutes. Yesterday morning not so good, didn't walk, didn't write down what I ate, smoked a lot on the electronic cigarette. The afternoon was better, got a bit of control over myself. Today is much better, tried to go back and write in yesterdays food and realized I couldn't remember most of the morning. So just wrote what I could remember and moved on.
definitely been thinking about things. At first all I could think about was to be completely satisfied I needed; a joint, a pack of real cigarettes and a quarter gram of meth. After I giggled a bit and thought about reality, I realized I needed a satisfying job. I wish I could remember Maslow's hierarchy of needs. I will have to search for it after I post. I have my safety needs met so I am thinking it has something to do with helping others or something like that. I have been looking for work but haven't yet found it. ( I clean house, but it is sporadic and not very satisfying.) I also realized that a lot of the reason I did drugs was not to relax but rather to get things done around the house, that is just a big part of my life so it is important to me. Even pot I had turned into an upper, if you get good enough stuff you can do that. I don't have much trouble relaxing, an overstuffed armchair and a good movie usually does it. But I have issues with energy and motivation. Just an observation and a place to start pinpointing the problem.
Yesterday afternoon I spent trying to live in the moment. I would stop and just ask myself if I really Needed anything in that moment. And the answer was almost always no. I put away the electronic cigarette early afternoon and didn't need it the rest of the day. Although I did smoke too much of it in the morning and felt unwell from it, because I don't smoke. So back to this living in the present thing. I am thinking there is a heightened awareness that you develop to go along with it, will have to read up on it.


Looked up Maslow and it was easy to see I am probably at the esteem level. A good job that I liked and was good at would probably go a long way in meeting my self-esteem needs. Something I am definitely lacking lately.

Dr Wayne Dyer studied under Maslow, he has loads of stuff on YouTube, definitely worth a look.

I have seen Dr. Dyer on public television and have always enjoyed his talks, will look up more on you tube as time permits.
I finished my electronic cigarette and threw it away, then went and got a real one from a friend. It is not what I need, so have no plans to buy any more electronic cigarettes and no plans to continue smoking.
I did walk today but I believe it was only 10 minutes, I didn't time it. As so often happens my motivation is slipping, I have wrote nothing in my food journal today, preferring to get lost in the oblivion of a continuous stream of food.
I am losing equal motivation to write anymore as I keep getting embarrassed at sharing things, specifically the strong desires I still have to be a drug addict.
I have been earnestly job hunting, so that is something good.
I will keep viewing the motivational video from you, JulliusFawcett, because it is easy. But it appears I have a thick skull and I am not sure how much is getting through.

The nice thing about the motivational video is that it is easy, you can watch it many times a day, you can just listen to it too. Think about how many times you have had negative self talk, now think about how many times to watch the video to cancel that negative self talk out and replace it with positive self talk.

Have walked the last two days. Got a good job, start soon, I know that seems quick but I have been looking for months, something finally came through.
Saw the doctor, who suggested weight watchers to count points, So I am going to whole heartedly try it. I am going to spend my free time on the weight watchers site so this is my last post here for awhile. These posts were helpful to help me see what I needed. May come back and post an occasional update.
Have JuliusFawcett's motivational video shortcut on my desktop, plan to use it regularly. I think the video helped me have a successful job interview. It was my pep talk before I went in. Thank you, JuliusFawcett

Good to you. Best of luck.

inert wrote:Have walked the last two days. Got a good job, start soon, I know that seems quick but I have been looking for months, something finally came through.
Saw the doctor, who suggested weight watchers to count points, So I am going to whole heartedly try it. I am going to spend my free time on the weight watchers site so this is my last post here for awhile. These posts were helpful to help me see what I needed. May come back and post an occasional update.
Have JuliusFawcett's motivational video shortcut on my desktop, plan to use it regularly. I think the video helped me have a successful job interview. It was my pep talk before I went in. Thank you, JuliusFawcett

It's my pleasure, thanks for the praise, I appreciate it. Good luck with the job, it's great to read that positive changes are happening for you. Best wishes Julius

A job is definitely the best thing that you can do to end your problem. Always focus on something else. It will not be too hard to forget about it when you are already too busy with other activities. Join events. Socialize. The world has a lot to offer. Just avoid restaurants, though.

Look with all do respect you just have to stay out of the kitchen. I have a combinatuion of anorexia and over eating anytime I start to eat and I realize am i going to binge??? I simple take a few breath I count to 100 I get a drink of water I go out side or take a shower or I play on the internet or I call my family.

Thanks for sharing.

I overeat from time to time when I am bored or think too much. Then I always feel really guilty for it and beat myself up.

Hey, we are all trying our best, we can be easier on ourselves