by speakerfritz » Sun Jan 08, 2012 7:18 am
Well my journey brings me here. All is well in my life. Retired from the Army in 1995. Will retire again in 4 years. Put three kids thru college. Youngest just graduated and got a job. The other two are doing well. Over the last 3 years a few of life's surprises hit me and in getting out of the ashes, some one suggested I take an EI test. Took the test and scored a 99. I'm in the 99th percentile. So that's why I'm here. I want to associate with folks who have an interest in EI. The person who suggested I take the test, expected that a low score would be the basis of metric's to measure personality self improvement. After learning of my score, she was baffled (an organizational people process improvement coach). I asked her to take the same test....she got a 45. Average score. She asked me point blank what I made of this...and I said, quite simply, a person who has a high EI score has the ability to project to everyone around them a different image based on what the reciever needs to see....in her case..she needed to see a cave man...someone with no social skills..it was the foundation of her self worth....she asked around and was surprised to find that it's true...and realized she really did know all the people in her life that she thought she understood...her journey began on that day...and a year plus later..is the happiest she had ever been. Why am I sharing this ....well , when I hit a few of life's surprises that I had mentioned earlier, and was buried in the ashes of the ruble that represented the symbols of my life....as I sat there in the dark, cold , scared, and confused, it was her hand that I heard pushing thru the ruble searching for me, her voice that said to hang on, and her strength that pulled me out, dusted me off, and re-focused my life. She was a good friend for a little over two years , both growing. We both parted and went our separate ways. I do think of her often...who wouldn't...an angel that was flying by and took notice of me, and my needs, stopped her journey and participated in my life , until I realized I was holding her back...then I had to let her go. I'm still moving forward. And yes, I still project a different image to everyone around me, different depending on what they need.