A manager asked me once in my first interview outside education, "are you sure retail is what you want to do?" I answered, Yes ( as I wanted to get the job). But the truth was I didn't have a back up plan after leaving university so I felt like I had to say yes as I needed a job.
I feel like I am rubbish at making big life and career decisions.
It started with dating some guys that were no good for me, obviously I didn't know that at the time! I went to university as that was the next step for me after sixth form and my boyfriend didn't like this so decided to run of with one of my friends back at home behind my back. This was definitely a lesson to learn from so I am thankful in a way, as it got me out of that!
I completed and passed my university year and came home at summer time to realise that I had nothing to do as I had no friends- they had taken his side. My gran was in her death bed by the end of the summer and passed away not long after. I remember just feeling numb and not wanting to do anything at all and I would get quite anxious at times. I decided I wasn't strong enough to return to university- although I didn't admit this to anyone I just said that I had chosen the wrong course. I didn't know how to deal with my feelings at the time. So I found a job in a small shop. I worked here for over two years and was quite happy with my easy little life style. But people would ask me, why don't you get a proper job? You are a very intelligent girl. But I couldn't answer them. And just carried on.
Until the shop closed down. On to the next retail job working 40 hours a week. I knew this wasn't what I wanted to be doing with my life so decided to return back to education after some months as in the back of my mind I wanted to complete my degree.
Returning to education didn't work, after working for some time I felt like I just did not fit in and didn't want it enough to continue. So again I fell back on a retail job.
A pattern is starting to emerge and I fear I'm on a downward spiral but don't know how to reverse it? I know I don't belong in retail. But I fear that answering that initial question with a yes I have now set myself up for a life of this.
I know that a lot of people don't enjoy their jobs and people do ultimately just work to get paid to live. But I have witnessed people working and truly enjoying their jobs so why can't I be like them?
I don't know what to do because I had an interest in all areas at school and have never been able to narrow it down. I know this is normal.
I do know that I enjoy being creative and would love to open up my own business creating my own art.
I just worry too much about what people think of me? The stigma attached to people being unemployed? Which is why I never let myself stay unemployed for long- hence making decisions to take jobs that I know I won't really enjoy.
I just don't know what to do next?
As I have a new job and I fear that I am going to do what I have done before and leave soon due to my want to do something I enjoy!
I'm worried what my family and boyfriend will say if I do leave and how it will look on my cv.
But retail is starting to make me feel unhappy and I need pastures a new. But what?