self acceptance vs self improvement?

Both are possible. But your focus is on results instead of the effort.

I accept myself today, I am strong enough to do 80 push ups. I can improve. I can work on building my strength to 90 push ups or 100, but what is perfect? There is no such thing as I can always add one more push up.

i accept that it is not the number that matters, but the effort I put forth. As I get older, with age I will no longer be able to do 80 push ups. Eventually I will only be able to do 75 then 65, etc. that is the cycle of life. I accept that my strength will lessen it time, but my effort will not. It is the effort that is my focus, not the results.

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What you think, speak, and believe as true of yourself is what is expressed in reality.

If you want to improve the conditions of your life, you must change the concept you have of your Self. Your concept of your Self is what you think, speak, and believe as true of yourself.

You can accept what has happened already. Accept that you are where you are at right now. Then, if you find it (your conditions) wanting, by changing your self-concept (what you believe of yourself), you change how you behave, thereby changing how those around you respond to your new idea of your Self, thus changing your conditions (reality).

Accept yourself, then make improvements.

Hi, I think that it's a great thing that you are reading lot of books and working on your personal development.

I read amazing book few months ago, from dr. John F. Demartini called "The Breakthrough Experience". I highly recommend it to read. Not only that you will accept yourself, but you will understand how previous events from past (positive or negative) can help you today to be a better person.

I also recommend another thing to try (free software that will help to reprogram your mind faster): http://www.mindofwinner.com/subliminal-messages/.

Instead of focusing on improving, you can also focus on enriching your life. Enriching works without any rejection of the status quo.

Best to utilize both. Obviously it can be hard, and most likely will be! Good luck!

Both are essential.. but improving for the better will always be beneficial

self improvement is that through taking ourself even as are usually, many of us give ourself space, agreement, and probability to build a realistic perception involving success and completion.

self acceptance is that when many of us enable ourself to take whom were, where by were, what’s definitely happening, qualities concerning ourself, tasks of whom were, plus more – many of us truly established ourself upward and allow ourself the ability to make adjustments, enhancements, and enhancements to be able to ourself and the existence within an real approach.

You can boost your self esteem by doing something you are good at.
Is there any skill you would like to master or are well on your way to acquire?
Maybe that could help you feel good about yourself knowing that there is something in the world that you do, that most people can't do because you've been dedicated to learning how to do it. It feels good being a master at something. It is a privilege as well as a source of pride. Of course this status is accessible to you and it could be a worthwhile investment for self acceptance and self esteem.

Don't try so hard it just puts more pressure on and will not be able to improve on yout situation.
Focus on one thing at the time, maybe start with eliminating subconscious negative self talk.

Have you tried mediation, nlp or any other form of making a deeper connection with yourself?

Your thoughts and beliefs are getting you in trouble. You have a negative thought which is followed by a negative feeling which gives rise to another negative thought and so on. Here's a simple exercise that will help:

When you first wake up in the morning, spend a couple of minutes focusing on the good things that exist in your life. Examples might include the people that love you, the fact that you had a good bed to sleep in and good food to eat, the sun shining through your window.

After you're up and about, spend the day being aware of every thought and feeling you have. Don't try and change them, just be aware. Your awareness will bring about the change effortlessly. Do this for at least 3 days. This exercise will probably make you extra tired, but that's okay.

After the 3 days, sit down and make a list beginning with the words "I am---" Now examine the list with the realization that the only thing that should follow "I am--" are the words "a conscious being." Everything else is a make believe reality structured by your ego.

Take solace in the fact that most people live their lives around an ego structured reality. Your false reality just happens to be making you miserable right now. The beauty is that with a little practice you can change that.

You cannot do both at the same time,

Because when you say I ACCEPT MYSELF, it means I am done, I just want to RELAX
it is the moment when you DON'T OBSESS ANYMORE,
it is the moment when you simply want to RELAX
it is the moment when you don't JUDGE oneself,
it is the moment of MEDITATION
it is the moment you don't care about any ACTION

but when you say I WANT TO IMPROVE you searching for OBSESSION
you searching for your ENERGY, for you INTELLIGENCE
you are becoming ready to give your best shots you got,
which is opposite of RELAXATION,

sometimes you need to RELAX and care about NOTHING
but we cannot RELAX all the time, like the MEDITATION GURUS TEACH
because we have to bring FOOD on the table

GOOD DECISIONS in life is what makes our lives beautiful
when you DECIDE: THIS IS A GOOD TIME FOR ME TO RELAX
or you DECIDE: THIS IS A GOOD TIME FOR ME TO READ A BOOK
or you DECIDE: THIS IS A GOOD TIME FOR ME TO GO FOR WALK

Nobody knows this better than you, when is the perfect time for you to do something
But we understand fear,
negative experiences we have in life, create anxiety
you go outside you have some good times, have some positive experiences to change how you feel about something
do not let everything around you to be identified as OBSESSION
let something to be a PLAYFUL moment , a RELAXING moment, a LOVING moment

Every time you want to achieve something new mistakes will happen

Focus on the target and what steps you already did to achieve


thanks for sharing have a great day

Self acceptance is the first step toward self improvement! You have to know yourself! What you think is negative may not be negative for others. Think of all your characteristic and pen it down on a paper. Understand yourself and why you do this or that! That Is self acceptance. Then find your flaws and work on them. I usually sleep very late and the improvement I can do is try to sleep earlier. But I can only do that if I finish my stuff earlier. Like this I have to Better manage my time.
You can try from small flaws to big! Don't rush it, it backfires.

Hope this helped