by Candid » Tue Apr 14, 2020 6:19 pm
Or, from a broader perspective, get rid of the idea that anything in life is "ment" or "not ment" to be.
You fancy your ex-partner's brother's wife, who is currently single. You like (? you didn't say) her "kids" and presumably are financially capable of and not averse to raising them.
Seriously, drop the notion of "ment" or "not ment" to be and tell her how you feel, then you'll immediately know which way the wind blows.
I hope you're not a one-post wonder and will let us know how this pans out. If you'd like clarification of your current feelings you can't go past Richard Dawkins's book The Selfish Gene to show you what's really going on.