Extreme Jealousy over younger kids?

What are your goals? Where is your focus? You focus on you and your goals, you focus on your game.

You are setting yourself up to place blame on things outside of your control instead of taking responsibility for these things being distractions, taking you off your focus. You losing focus is on you. It is your responsibility to stay focused.

Think of the sisters that are tennis stars, Vanessa and Serena Williams. It is not Serena's fault if Vanessa loses focus, nor vice versa.

Basically, you need to stop wasting time/energy. Wake up, be awesome, repeat. Follow that process each and every day. Wake up, be awesome, repeat. Wake up, be awesome, repeat. If you start losing your head in what other people are doing with their lives, you are not being awesome, you are not following the process.

JacksonDamian wrote:Hey guys I'm in 10th grade I'm a sophomore and recently I've started to feel extremely jealous of every kid that is a few years younger than me baucause I feel like they are getting opportunitys that I didn't and are more successful than I was at that age. This is mainly in the sports I play and it makes me feel like they are going to be better than me in the future and for some reason it really bugs me. The same goes for my 2 younger siblings as I am the oldest and I feel like they are going to be better and more successful because of better circumstances they have now than I did. This has become a huge problem in my life and stresses me out a lot one I don't know how to fix it. PLEASE any help would be so great.....

What it sounds like you are feeling is envy. Envy often stems from feeling a lack of recognition - as if you aren't good enough or aren't recognized enough, for reasons beyond your control, and therefore everyone else shouldn't be allowed to be recognized as successful because it's not your fault you aren't seen as good enough.

When I was much younger, I used to feel envy towards friends in class who I thought were getting recognition for good work and I felt I wasn't getting the recognition I thought I deserved. I used to get competitive and raise my hand often to give the right answer. And soon I became that kid that teachers would ignore because I wouldn't let anyone else speak in class. Soon I realized that trying too hard to be recognized is more damaging to you than not being recognized at all.

The solution, I found, was to embrace myself for who I am. I recognized myself as being unique. I had unique interests, a unique sense of humor, a unique way of looking at things. It didn't matter if I was recognized by others, or if I had the right answer. What mattered was that I was connected to what made me unique and special, and that I could develop that. Then, eventually, I would be recognized as being different from other people.

I think in your case, you need to understand what makes you unique and special. And focus on developing that. What unique skills can you bring to the table - in sports, in school, at home, etc.? Who are you, and what do you want to become?