mute wrote:what do you do when your mom is a master manipulator but shes also in bad health and uses that to control people.?
tries to make you feel guilty for supposedly treating her bad?
If you have identified a person as a "master manipulator" then as tokeless suggested you establish your own personal boundaries and/or limits.
For example, if you go to buy a new jacket what do you expect when you walk through the door? You expect the salesperson to do what? To be a salesperson. You expect them to try and sell you. It is by definition, what they are supposed to do. You do not expect them to give you the jacket for free or for cost. You do not expect them to serve you a steak dinner. If your expectation is that the salesperson is to be anything other than a salesperson you are being naive.
An easy way to set boundaries when dealing with a salesperson is to have a limit of how much you are willing to spend.
If your mom is a "master manipulator" then whenever you interact with your mom what should you expect? For her to manipulate. It shouldn't be a surprise. By definition she is supposed to try and manipulate you. If you expect a manipulator not to manipulate you are being naive. So what do you do? Same as the salesperson, you set limits, you set boundaries.