Strange fashion sense

Hi Charlie

I'm very interested - what part of Singapore do you live in?

hey! Wouldn't this work in the light lounge as well? You all are funny! ...so this is what you're like off the job? Scary!!

lighthouse

I don't live in singapore - you're thinking of henry gigolo

Ally G wrote:Well, as has already been said, either you need to find someone who finds your mode of dress acceptable or stop wearing skirts. As for it being more acceptable for women to wear mens clothes than vice versa, that isn't always the case - there are still people who frown on women wearing trousers even in this day and age, and if a women dresses in too masculine a style then her sexual persuasion starts to be questioned. Not much different to you being judged for wearing skirts really.

This seems a bit obvious, but wouldn't loose-fitting, light-weave, cotton shorts be just as cool and comfortable, and more socially acceptable?

Hi Ally,
I also frown upon women wearing trousers.
Its not because I dont like to see it but because its 'stupid' in the 'not so serious sense' because skirts are much more comfortable to wear.

suep wrote:I don't see any reason why you shouldn't wear exactly what you want to - it shouldn't just be the perogative of women to wear what they want. Its equally as unfair as the traditional men versus women ideas.

Have you thought about wearing a sarong? You can get them in all lengths, and you're in exactly the right part of the world to wear them - Maybe the longer ones for outdoors. Personally I think a man's legs would look very good in a sarong, so go for it!

Sure I could wear Sarong.
I am just back from Bali where people do that.
Still, for my taste it is too warm, but it is a good idea.
Sarongs are usually long covering at least the knee and for men up to the feet. There it is more a matter of religion and how much of the body parts like legs and arma should be exposed/visible.

Singapore: you probably mean me. I am living in the west of Singapore, They call that part Jurong.
Have you been to Singapore before?

I also think that people connect too much sexuality with clothes.

CharlieC wrote:I can think of plenty of reason where I live - you'd get your donkey kicked.

I can imagine that. Especially the Americas are quite intolerant.
On some caribean islands, when a man and a girl have naked sex at the beach they get fined. When two of the same sex do the same they get long jail terms.
Dont understand me wrong here, I do not want a same sex partner.
I even try not to have any contact with men, not even shaking hands.

Hi herny

There are lots of guys who were 'women's' clothers because they like them.

There are even corsets that are made for men because they like wearing them.

Sometimes men who wear women's clothng like the feeling of femininity. Sometimes they simply just prefere the clothing without necessarily thinking it is any more or less feminiine - full stop.

There are lots of sites on the Internet on which you will be able to look for partners who not only accept but also ENCOURAGE your style. I am not going to post links here but you might start by searching with the word 'crossdresser'. Remember thogh that there are lots of people who pretend to be what they are not on the Internet. Do not give your personal details such as home address to anybody and if you arrange to meet with them, meet somewhere public first such as a cafe or bar. I am sure you are aware of precautions you need to take!

It's not at all as hopeless as it may seem to find a partner who likes your style of dressing. Good luck!

Annabell wrote:There are lots of guys who were 'women's' clothers because they like them.

There are even corsets that are made for men because they like wearing them.

Sometimes men who wear women's clothng like the feeling of femininity. Sometimes they simply just prefere the clothing without necessarily thinking it is any more or less feminiine - full stop.

...Remember thogh that there are lots of people who pretend to be what they are not on the Internet. Do not give your personal details such as home address to anybody and if you arrange to meet with them, meet somewhere public first such as a cafe or bar. I am sure you are aware of precautions you need to take!

Thanks for your comments Annabell,

Someone wrote that also Beckham likes to wear skirts.
(though Beckham would not be an example for me )

For me personally it is not a feeling of femininity, although I can imagine to change roles with my girlfriend, that she takes over the male role and I play the female role. Doesnt matter actually as long as we can get along.

I think the biggest hurdle is that society connects skirts with femininity/sexuality. Thats what makes it difficult for men wearing skirts in public.
I actually do not like to wear womens clothes other than skirts because it is just more comfortable and here I dont even look at it as 'womens clothes' although I know they acually are.

For the finding of contacts through the internet: I am caeful and aware of the fact that you never know who is who. Thats why I generally avoid meeting people I have met on the internet although I have made only one exeption until now after a lot of considerations.
It was a woman in Bogota which I though I might want to meet and I told her that I only wanted a friendship, no more.
I know that she would have never understood my way of life because things in Colombia are just working differently and a man has to be a 'macho'.
Things came out as I thought they would come out. After knowing her for a while she wanted a more close relationship and probably even marry me. Thats when I terminated the relationship.

Hey,

Have a look at this site:
http://www.imff.net/

Thanks Annabell,
I will have a look.
have a nice time.

Hi,
in the meantime I have visited a psychiatrist here in Singapore.
Well....
he classified me as transsexual.
Now I am on HRT hoping to get my sex change done by next year.

Just to keep you updated

So, after so long time I am through my gender change and the initial small problems like bleeding and pain while sitting.

After so many hormones I can anyway not pass any more as a guy.

Now since my gender and my appearance has been changed I can wear whatever I want.

What has not changed though is my sexual direction and my feelings.
I still dont like guys.
So, people who think hormones or gender change change someone's sexual direction: That's plain nonsense, coc'k and bull stories.

its really sad that you got divorce simply by your sense of wearing it all depends upon individuals you must be frank about your dressing style and even if you have to make adjustments you should do that as well

"One is to find a girlfriend who accepts you no matter what you wear; or alternatively to stop wearing skirts."

Just be true to yourself and you will find the girl you want, and whats wrong with the skirts if you feel comfortable with that you don't have to change it.

EDITED:

My post was obsolete when I realised there was another page to this thread.

Wow, Henry, Go!

henry go wrote:Hello,
I am M, 34, used to be married, but got divorced becaue my wife didnt like my fashion sense or the way I dress at home.
Well, at home I nowadays wear short, mostly jeans skirts beacuse I find it more practical to wear skirts rather than trousers.
My dilemma is, would have a new girlfriend, after my divorce, but I am worried that she would also recect me as I am.

Now I dont know what to do.

Could anyone advise me, has someone an idea?

That's not really serious grounds for divorce. You can always talk about it. Anyway, I was surprised why do you wear skirts? that's strange indeed.

as for your new gf, if she asks you to improve your fashion sense, by all means, do it. Personally, I find men in skirts very odd. You should be willing to change for your love. It's for the better you know.

Ok, I too did not see the last few posts on this page before posting.

Never mind