I was in a relationship for almost 4 years, we broke up two months ago because the last six months have been rough for us. A lot of fighting and not enough happiness. I was under a lot of stress with school work, new employment, and family issues so I couldn’t pay attention to him and his needs as much.
We decided to take a break and we both needed it so it was mutual.
We are now seeing each other on a regular basis. I love him and want to be with him again. It’s easier for me to pay more attention to him and have it how it used to be since I’m graduating college and I can get a full time job.
The issue now is that he’s been meeting many girls online. He says their all friends only but I know the kind of guy he is, and he has a lot of sexual impulses.
He says he loves me and wants to be with me but doesn’t exactly know what’s going on in his mind. He said he was so unhappy for so long that I can’t expect him to jump back in to the relationship and I understand that. But how can he expect me to be around him while he messages girls all day long.
It hurts me to spend time with him and go out to the beach and what not but have him be on his phone reply to every message, when I know that if I was the one texting him, he wouldn’t even reply for hours and what not.
I’m stuck. I want him back and I want the relationship we had, but he’s not ready and I can’t stick around while he hides every text message and I know he’s taking to all these girls —even if their friends..