Hurtwomen wrote: I confronted him about it, and he had just said that he has had that, it's old and he never gets on it that's why he hasn't deleted it, but I'm not so sure
You’re not sure? What is he suppose to say, “Yep, I’m not happy and am searching for another relationship?” OF COURSE he tells his current girlfriend that is monitoring his emails and snooping around that it is an old account.
but I don't wanna stoop to his level and starr an account, some help please!
Too late. Your snooping is stooping...and he has one foot out the door. Trust is gone, gone, gone.
So, why does he stick around? Because you let him and he rationalizes that he can shop around, hide it from you and when he finds someone new he will move on. For now, he avoids the pain of breaking up, still gets his intimate/sexual needs basically met, and if he fails in pursuit of other women he has you as a backup plan.
See, his way of thinking is you are a great safety net. Sure, it is a lack of integrity to go behind your back, but trust is already blown on both sides so who cares? He can pretend that one day when he is tired of hunting for strange he can shut down all his accounts and you will still be there. Until then he figures he is smarter than you and you can go ahead and snoop away. After all, what is the worst that wll happen when you catch him?