I have a hunch no girl could ever prove she loved you, to your satisfaction. She could only ever prove the opposite, by hurting, leaving or betraying you. This means whoever you take up with will be on trial for the rest of her life.
In your "hot donkey" post you envisioned a whole relationship through marriage, children and bitter divorce with a woman you haven't met yet. You want to know how the movie ends before you'll buy a ticket. This means, if you keep it up, that you won't see any movies and at 50 you'll still believe everyone's after your money.
but not by staying at home and telling yourself there's no movie worth seeing.
How did you come to have so little trust in yourself and in life?
Now a question to everyone here. What is love to you? what are the values that love has in your life? i ask this in a search to learn more of empathy for others and is a step.
How much do you pay for your flat?
The perfect amount for me.
Oh, tell me
I just did lol
Hamming wrote:Somehow I believe that my mother really proved that she loves my father even when for me it looks that my father really is an a**hole to her from time to time. I don't know how to say why I believe she loves him, but it really look from the way she talks, acts, helps, etc.
I read on the internet that a lot of woman **** with other man while in mariage...
All those things draw me an image of what woman are like.
yea, trying to do that [staying at home and telling yourself there's no movie worth seeing]. At least I myself will improve even if I will not find what I want.
I think you can imagine a love to cat or to a dog or whatever animal you love. Cat is always wanting you and happy spending time with you. It does not **** your mind. He needs little money.
And from woman I also want that she do not ****, and not go too intimate with other man physically.
JuliusFawcett wrote:Humour is always a great answer...
So this is your template for relationship: the man behaves like an a**hole and the woman proves her love by putting up with him.
Is that it? You want a hot donkey, by which you presumably mean a woman who's desirable to the majority of men, and you want her to be faithful to you? That's a bit like buying the fastest and flashiest car, but it won't start unless YOU, and you alone, are in the driver's seat. Will probably be invented one day. The car, not the woman.
What does it tell a girl if you have a flat which your parents brought for you?
In general telling the truth helps with building emotional intimacy.
Hamming wrote:It tells that she does not need to care about money, her husband will have enough money. And she will be more safe in terms of money not because of her but because of me.
Lets say there are 2 guys like me. One has a flat, another does not have a flat, but has better social skills, has more alpha male qualities.
She chooses guy with flat just because this looks like huge thing. But she would really love another guy - she does not choose him just because he does not have flat.
And then still after some time she meets that cool guy and decides to cheat and **** with him just because she kind of loves him in real, or at least he is much more attractive.
Candid wrote:Hamming wrote:It tells that she does not need to care about money, her husband will have enough money. And she will be more safe in terms of money not because of her but because of me.
Lets say there are 2 guys like me. One has a flat, another does not have a flat, but has better social skills, has more alpha male qualities.
She chooses guy with flat just because this looks like huge thing. But she would really love another guy - she does not choose him just because he does not have flat.
And then still after some time she meets that cool guy and decides to cheat and **** with him just because she kind of loves him in real, or at least he is much more attractive.
This is hilarious.
Hamming, don't even think about dating any more girls. You don't like them, you don't trust them, you think all they want is your money. And from what I've heard, you don't have much. You expect them to seduce you, grab half of your empire (a flat, FFS!), and run off with someone who's a bit more fun to be around.
Seriously, I'd like to know why you think so little of yourself, how you've become so tight-fisted, and what you think life will be like 30 or 40 years from now when you've got your flat and some more consumer durables but your bed is cold and you still believe no woman worth her salt could fall for someone like you.
The way things stand, you're right. Where's that getting you? Is it what you want, Ebenezer?