by Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Nov 27, 2017 5:21 pm
Yes. The solution is pretty straight forward, but dependent on your resources, there is a possible barrier.
Step -1- Get as close to a horse as you can where there is just a bit of apprehension, but not fear. Stay there. Stay there until you are comfortable, then step a bit closer. The horse being in a stall or contained area will help.
Step -2- Once you can get to where you can stand within arms reach, you begin learning to touch and/or pet the horse, working up to petting the horse.
Step -3- Care for the horse. After petting and/or feeding, then it becomes getting comfortable being around the horse in general, helping to groom, maintain, and otherwise be close to the horse other than riding. Putting a saddle on the horse would be included in step 3.
Step -4- Get on the horse.
Step -5-, -6-, and -7-, spend longer amounts of time on the horse, first in confined areas, then eventually out for a ride.
In education, this stepped or phased process is called "scaffolding" where you gradually build the skills, knowledge, and attitudes...in your case fear is an attitude, possibly based on some erroneous beliefs.
In psychology, this type of stepped process is followed in cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT.
The big barrier, is whether or not you have access to horses on a regular enough basis to spend the time required to scaffold your learning. If you are scared of the sea, but you only have access to the sea once a year, then scaffolding or CBT will be pretty darn difficult if not impossible. Likewise, to overcome a fear of horses to the extent you can ride a horse can require spending a significant amount of time around a horse. You might not have that luxury.