by laureat » Sun Jul 10, 2016 4:25 am
I want to share two of my favorite and elaborate them
1. What you focus on = feelings
I remember a surgery doctor working with the kids and so he used to make questions to the kids to lead them focus on something else instead of fear the surgery process
he was leading the kid feel like home, it was so beautiful and witnessing that was important lesson for me to understand that what we focus on has lot to do with how we feel, and later I dig deeper on that to understand it more
because it is simple to say FOCUS = FEELINGS it is a challenge to understand on how many different situations, this formula can be used , for example it can also be used on this post that I am using, I can talk about blood and lead you fear or I can talk about ice cream and lead you to different feel but I had to mention that story because i was impressed and inspired from
2. we change how we feel about something
people be like : I love the sun, YES it is beautiful and you have no reason to make negative statements about the sun but you may change how you feel about it, if it burns your skin you may start to hate it if it burns really bad, a specially if you are somewhere on a desert, but than winter comes and you may start to miss the sun
so how we feel about something it may keep changing depending on experience
someone say I hate the sun , what he simply say is I had bad experiences, I was burned, or whatsoever
someone who say I hate X PERSON, it means I had a bad experience with him, it doesn't mean that one cannot change how he feels about the X PERSON, through positive experiences we change how we feel about
someone say I FEAR snakes, but who knows you may meet someone who loves snakes and give you all different point of view , gives you all different belief and if it happens that you go and play with his pets and if one has a good experience you may start to love them, and fear disappear, the fear is a negative prediction that this snake will bite, but if it bites, if you have a negative experience it may lead to negative feelings ,the prediction will be that it will happen again , and so it will be difficult for someone else to convince you approach a snake again , so it all depends on experience that you have