I need this, i need lonely.

When people bully, it is nothing personal, it is just information about their level of personal development.

JuliusFawcett wrote:When people bully, it is nothing personal, it is just information about their level of personal development.

Dear Julius,

You know, it is kind of you to take Lone Wolf's WORD for it that these people are indeed 'Bullying' him. BUT, since he is complaining that EVERYONE is Bullying him, well, doesn't that seem Odd to you? It would make me suspect that all of this Bullying is just a matter of HIS Perception and HIS Personal Development.

I think this is ONE AREA where YOUR Emphasis on Happiness Thinking... Optimism and Positive Thinking would really Pay Off Big if you could get Lone Wolf to listen to you.

Loner_Wolf wrote:Why's people's bully me even after high-school?Why i can't be a loner wolf? why do i have get marriage if i see every marriage a disaster or lost cause hell people's give me advice from a single mother, i threw my graduation medal and trophy so i won't have see them.

Hi,

What I would like to offer you in this situation is a metaphor. When someone gives you something, and you see that it's a gift, you gladly accept. But when someone gives you, say, a stone, you wouldn't take it, right? Because who needs stones?

I suggest that you try to do the same with the opinions of other people. Whenever you get any unsolicited advice, just ignore it.

In my own life, I only accept advice from people who have what I want to have. For example, I would not accept relationship advice for my marriage from a woman who has been single all her life, because she doesn't have the experience that I am looking for.

When someone tells you something upsetting or judges you, ask yourself: Is it a gift or a stone? And does this person have what I want?

Very often they don't. So why should you care what they think?

Hope this helps. And let me know if you ever need to talk.

Olga