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Hi, I would strongly suggest that you see a mental health professional, because your mental health problem can be very tightly connected with your anger issues. You need to get it out of the way first, or at least minimize it as much as possible, and then see what happens to your anger. Maybe it wil...

The story about your Mom tucking you in is beautiful and touching indeed. But when I proceeded to read the second part of your message, I was a little taken aback by your cynicism. You call a woman's natural desire to have more than 1 child "a child bearing parade". I'm sorry, but that's j...

Hi Leo, Great advice! I must admit - I often do look frustrated or confused when my daughter is crying. It's hard to maintain my composure in those moments, because the moment she starts crying I get nervous myself. I am aware of that nervousness in the moment, but it's hard to shake it off. Thank y...

Great essay, Leo! As a mom of a 1-year-old, I am starting to notice that my daughter is now throwing tantrums when she's not allowed to play with things that are dangerous to play with. I must admit that I still sometimes give in and comfort her, so that she stops crying. But that's only because she...

Hi Leo, Now that you've explained in a little bit more detail the boarding school system as you see it, it does make a lot more sense to me. And yes, I agree that it's OK sometimes to generalize, as long as in the back of your head you are aware that you are overgeneralizing for the sake of the disc...

Hi Leo, I have been thinking about this idea of "resurrecting" boarding schools. Yes, you are right, I do view them with significant skepticism and doubt. But for the purpose of this discussion let's assume that they provide excellent education, instill wonderful values and are generally g...

Hi Leo, I find this theory interesting and definitely not appalling, I would much rather prefer spending time with my husband when I am fresh from my nap, clean, fed and therefore lovable, adorable and delightful :) This is how things usually are when a couple is dating, and the quality of such time...

Hi Olga, Always so nice.... Your thoughts and reacts are exactly what can be expected. As I said, people are conditioned into thinking that Relationships are essentially "Good Things". But the 'tip off' there is that we always hear that Relationships need 'Work' and 'Commitment'. But, Wha...

Hi Leo, A lot of unexpected thoughts for me in this post. I do agree that in interpersonal relationships anger is almost never a good idea. And there is no doubt that a calm and peaceful setting will help you to stay calm and peaceful. But what doesn't quite resonate with me is the idea of getting o...

Your words made me blush from shame, Leo :) I promise, I'm not entering my husband's office again! And what you shared about humor in a social setting is an eye-opener indeed. I should be trying much harder to bite my tongue when I don't have anything nice or productive to say. There is too much neg...

Thanks, Leo! This is great marriage advice indeed :) My man does have his own office/workshop, but whenever I enter that room, I immediately start nagging him about the mess inside :D It's a good thing I now have someone "external" to remind me to be good to my poor husband, because that q...

Thank you for your thoughtful and detailed reply, Leo! A lot of "aha" moments for me. I feel like you've touched on a lot of things I've noticed in my personal life, but couldn't verbalize this well in my head :) I am definitely guilty as charged on what you mentioned about wives knowing h...

Do you think that discussing the change in your behavior first with your partner would help? What if Wolfie actually told his wife that he learned this new technique and would like to implement it? And only then started practicing it? Just curious what your thoughts are on this) Because that's how m...

You might actually be right, Leo! I have never thought about it this way

Hi Wolfie, I have a very simple exercise for you. But if you actually apply it, you will be amazed at how things change between you and your wife. (I'm not going to address your issues with other people here, because it seems that it's your relationship with your wife that is your top priority at th...