My husband asked me if his mother could come to live with us because she was a drug addict and if she did not come out of that she would die (she is a 65 years old woman). I did not want her to come to live with us, and I expressed this to him telling him that the house was mine as much as it was his, but I did not agree with his mother coming. He then talk to his aunt (his mother's sister) and they both agreed that MIL would stay 1 month at our house and 1 month at the aunt's. They did a family meeting where I was invited to tell me the plan and also that his mother would help around the house while she was with us.
After about a week or so my husband put his mother into a detox program that lasted about three months. While the program lasted she was not home from morning to afternoon and I did not feel her presence that much. We had a few issues but, after a while she understood her position in my home. She completed the detox program and decided she would not leave the house even though her doctor had sent her to different specialists due to her health issues.
I traveled outside the state for work and as a habit I always look at cameras to talk to my dog. I then realized that one day after another MIL would watch tv for hours, from morning until night. Never leaving the house. I knew then she was there to stay and something needed to be done.
I talked to my husband and he contacted his aunt and asked her to please take his mother for a while. This happened after she had spent 6 months non stop at our home. The aunt took her, but after a month she is now back to our home again. I am not ok with this, I do not want her living with us.
Am I a monster for not wanting her in my home? She tries to stay out of my way, but in doing so I feel she spends hours in the room watching tv, doing nothing productive.
I have a cousin living with us, but she works all day; she only comes home at nights. My husband told me if MIL had to go my cousin has to go too. Is this fair?