Hi calmy,
Is it true that some companies want their collegues to vounteer to resign instead of firing them? If so, how come? I have this feeling they wanted me to leave since most of my major tasks been taken away from me.
To answer you the question above: Most companies don't want to fire their employees because if they are not careful and don't have a very good reason, they might have to face a labour law suit. It would cost them lots of money.
But you have to ask yourself a question: who is the company? The boss who pays you or the manager/leader who supervises you? If it is the real boss who does not like you for some reason, then it's very hard to stay, just leave. If it is the manager or leader who does not like you, you need to find out the real reason. You need to work it out with her/him. If s/he's too stubborn, demanding, manipulating, controlling, bullying, ganging up a group to isolate you, you need to find out why s/he is like that; and you need to find out why s/he does not like you too. If you think you work hard, you engage and commit yourself to the company and do nothing wrong, and s/he just does not like you because you're "different" (I'm just making an example), then you report her/him to the higher management. Also, you need to look at yourself, to find out your problem too and change/fix it. From what you've been writing, I see your problem is having a relationship and fantasy with a co-worker. That's a big issue for everybody to gossip and watch you in everything you do and everywhere you go in the company. That makes it very hard for you.
Anyway, whatever happened in the past, you cannot change it. Now you just have to think how you can get a job somewhere else and learn from your past experience and don't do the same mistakes again. Be strong and move on. When you get a new job, try to do better. I advise you: don't think of yourself as a victim; think of yourself as a survivor, and be proud of yourself.
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I attach an image above, hope it shows. If not, you can google it as a cat looking in to the mirror and sees him/herself as a tiger. You need to strengthen yourself by feeding positive, strong, powerful ideas in to your brain. Think yourself as strong, beautiful, likable, powerful, capable to do anything you want (with a good heart - not as an evil).
That's all I want to say. Wish you have a peaceful Holiday season and good luck in the new year.