Relationship with my father

**Posts:** 2 · by **Annaleecarter** » Sun Dec 27, 2020 5:07 am

My father used to gamble and cheat on my mom. He lost all his money and thugs used to come to my mom's office asking for money. It's been 7 years now. I thought it was all okay but recently he started stock trading online and has invested a lot of money in it. I think he will go back to his old ways. He is inconsiderate to my mom and me. My mom has always helped him financially and helped him buy a new house too.

Now, he says that he wants to sell his house. He also is very rude to my mom and me. He also bad talks about me and my mom to his friends and family telling that we don't take care of him etc. What should I do now? Should I confront him or not?

**Posts:** 3015 · by **tokeless** » Sun Dec 27, 2020 10:16 am

Hi,
I'm not sure how old you are, which could influence the decisions. If you're an adult then I would be considering whether I'd want a relationship with him based on his behaviour. If you're still dependent on your parents, then it is harder. How does your mum feel about the current situation? Are they still together? If not, I would move on and cut him loose because he doesn't seem to think of anyone but himself.... more details please.

**Posts:** 2 · by **Annaleecarter** » Sun Dec 27, 2020 10:34 am

Hi, I'm still in school. My mom won't divorce him as she thinks that society will look down on me and her. She doesn't want to divorce him or leave him. My mom is irritated and wants him to leave the house but he won't. He also had a kidney transplant a few years back which my mom paid for but he still is a dick to her. I can't cut all connections with him as my mom thinks that I'll give me bad karma.

**Posts:** 3015 · by **tokeless** » Sun Dec 27, 2020 11:25 am

Cultural issues can often leave people stuck in situations they'd prefer to change. I guess in your case all you can do is limit your exposure to him... if he notices you can tell him why and how it makes you feel when he treats you and your mum this way. You're stuck really until you can move out, but your mum is kind of enabling him to continue because why would he change when he doesn't have to?
Best wishes

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