Hi there, this is my second thread, and another self-centred one at that, so, I apologise.
I basically have alot of questions and problems, and I'm using this forum to ask them because my only friend (I'll come to that...) thinks I may be depressed.
Now, I am starting to think I'm depressed too, I am very ashamed, but, I cry quite a bit, I have read that being tired alot, despite having my required 8 to 9 hours a night, is also a symptom, and I am tired alot, and I seem to dream alot too. I'll talk about whats 'wrong', although not explicitly because its all very embarassing, in a bit, but, to start with, here is my first question. Is it possible that I'm not depressed at all, and am instead being self-indulgent and have convinced myself that I am depressed when I'm not, really?
I'm really worried thats the case, because, as it is, I don't see what can be done about me being upset all the time, its getting to the point where there are rarely any moments in the day that I do not wish to die, it isn't too bad right now, I still want to die, but I think I can think clearly, naturally if I'm not thinking clearly then I'm also falsely thinking I'm thinking clearly, so, I'm not too sure if I am.
Basically, what is making me sad, is, well, me, and here comes my second question. I am incredibly boring, and, 'slow', I can't socialise at all well, I have a job, but, today was a very bad day, I had to lie about having friends, i hardly ever lie, I simply couldn't say that I had none, I feel as if I do have one, however, and she is an 'internet friend', I do adore her, but its so embarrassing. But its worse than lieing about not having any friends, I were asked questions about whether I did anything at the weekend, the answer being no, the conversation then went on to, do i go clubbing, the answer was no, and the final question was, do I go out at all, the answer was 'not really', followed by another lie, saying I go out sometimes . I don't go out at all, as soon as I come home from work I lay in bed and go on my computer, laugh all you want, it hurts me alot. Whats worse, is, I simply can never carry a conversation, everyone else is interesting, funny, I am so boring, and stupid, I am really scared that I might lose my job, too, for being such a loner, sometimes I get so scared of replying to someone I mumble, say something weird or just freeze, I seriously can't take this anymore, something needs to be done. So, here is my second question, I know there is nothing that can be done, I can't change, but does anyone have any tips for making it hurt less? If someone knew a way to make me more interesting, I'd definately be up for that, but I doubt anyone does. I'm pretty useless, so, right now, I'm just staying around for my internet friend, but to be honest, I really don't feel as if I can hold out for much longer.
I would also like to say, I am 16, so, going back to my psuedo depression question, could I just be a whining teenager? I never understood that steriotype, I've never known any.
Back to my sadness, I haven't got an aim in life, I can't even think up an attainable one, I'm not really good at anything, at all, so, I figured if I at least tried to aim for something. And, what better an achievement than to overcome something that makes me unhappy. I feel as if I have an addiction, it isn't a large one, its food, I basically eat because I get bored, sad, and, yes, lonely, I know that sounds stupid, I mean, I don't make smiley faces with my food or anything, not often, anyway. Its basically 'snacking' that is my problem, I have what some may call a 'beer belly', but its slightly larger than that. I once managed to overcome this, I stuck to it for about 6 months, but then, christmas came, I couldn't refuse the food offered to me, it would have been impolite, and I am kind of ashamed of my addiction, i don't want people to even know I'm trying to stop, which is why I couldn't, at the time, appear to be refusing food. And so, since then, this was some years ago, btw, I have been snacking, quite alot. I simply can't stop, not even for one day, it was so hard to stop in the first place, now it is impossible, and I mean it, I can't even stop for one day, my question is, is there absolutely anything else I can do? Like I said, I eat to comfort myself, maybe I need comfort, I'm not too sure if I even want to give it up.
I'm sorry for droning on, i realise this forum isn't here for me to just whinge on, i would really like to know how possible it is that I am depressed, or just think I may be.