calmy12 wrote:Today, D approached me in a nice friendly manner but it turned out he just wanted to chase up for his o/t payments that he forgot to indicate on the timesheets. Looks like I will get in trouble again from the finance manager because I didn't pick up his o/t hours.
If it wasn't your fault, then stand up for yourself! I doubt if you will though... and these things will continue to happen, you'll continue to feel walked all over and so the cycle goes on.
Every time I come home from work, I feel a sense of sadness and loneliness invading my mind and my body.
Yes, because you won't go out and meet people - only you can do something about that.
In my current job, I'm still a casual worker, working for 5 days. The last two jobs, I was also a casual worker. i don't have the luxuries like what other people have ie taking leaves or claiming o/t hours.
I don't believe it matters whether you are a casual worker, the tea girl or a top manager - do your job with passion and gusto and I reckon you will make a difference to someone somewhere. That doesn't mean you deserve to be walked all over though - ever.
My parents keep telling me to leave.
What do YOU want?
But all jobs are the same.
They'll only be the same if you let it. Get out of your comfort zone!
I treat all my collegues at work as if they were part of my family. That's why I keep buying things without asking my money back and stayed back for free just to tidy up the office.
It isn't your colleagues who benefits though is it? It's whoever owns the company - and my guess is that they don't even know you're doing it.
I don't know what I'm doing to myself. I don't know how to escape from this situation and from D.
I think you do, though it is too comfortable to stay as you are.
I suggest you seek some kind of counselling to deal with your issues and, if / when you decide you can, start treating D as a friendly work colleague.
I wish you well.