How do you forget someone?

I can relate with you. Sometimes I wonder if it's good to forget about ex's or not. It's fun to think about memories of someone you enjoyed - but if it interferes with other aspects of life, then it's good to move on. I don't know if this applies to you, but sometimes I've wanted what I can't have. Why? Maybe low self-esteem - trying to "prove" that I can get someone difficult to like me? If that is your issue, you'll probably be able to move on from the past by working on your self-esteem (by impressing the heck out of yourself ) Live & learn!

The easiest but also weakest way is to become obsessed about someone else.

The best but hardest way involves being emotionally strong, not thinking about them much, and when you do think about them great the memories/thoughts with total nonchalance.

new memories slowly build over old ones. some we never forget, but everything hazes after awhile.
i'm doing the same thing in a way, except that not only did he make me happy, but also extremely bitter and sad. i have a thread "my friendship may have passed its expiry date" which goes indepth into that.

i honestly have no idea if i can move on. i'm a very successful push-away-er but a very unsuccessful follow-through-er in his case. everything else, i've done so well.

i have low self esteem and trust issues too motivated.
they run so deep, that i don't know if i can get out of them.


freedom80, just try to follow through with your decision. it's going to be soo hard, and we all feel for you. you just have to hold on, day by day, until it won't be so hard anymore. just do things that make you happy, hobbies, new hobbies!

when enough time passes, we can all move on. as i say these things to you, i can't beleive how hypocritical i'm being. but there IS a saying: "do as they say, not what they do"

good luck. if u succeed, tell me how u did it.

femme_edge wrote:new memories slowly build over old ones. some we never forget, but everything hazes after awhile.
i'm doing the same thing in a way, except that not only did he make me happy, but also extremely bitter and sad. i have a thread "my friendship may have passed its expiry date" which goes indepth into that.

i honestly have no idea if i can move on. i'm a very successful push-away-er but a very unsuccessful follow-through-er in his case. everything else, i've done so well.

i have low self esteem and trust issues too motivated.
they run so deep, that i don't know if i can get out of them.


freedom80, just try to follow through with your decision. it's going to be soo hard, and we all feel for you. you just have to hold on, day by day, until it won't be so hard anymore. just do things that make you happy, hobbies, new hobbies!

when enough time passes, we can all move on. as i say these things to you, i can't beleive how hypocritical i'm being. but there IS a saying: "do as they say, not what they do"

good luck. if u succeed, tell me how u did it.

Thanks Femme edge I will do!

Time doesn't seem to be a healer for me, if anything I've got lonlier the more time has gone on. God knows where to meet new people who are actually my age Two years is a ridiculos amount of time to still feel empty.

Hi Freedom,
I hope you feel better soon. Maybe a good way of meeting people you're compatable with is to just follow your passions. What do you love? And if you can't think of anything, open up your mind & explore what interests you. Then go to classes or events related to your interests. Don't go with the goal of finding Mr. Right, but to enjoy yourself & that passion that will glow from you will attract others. You've got this 1 life to live (unless you believe in reincarnation ) so live it up!