Hi guys, I'll try keep this short. Looking for some insight, and to see if it's possible my fiancee (ex?) has maybe got anxiety.
Been together 5 years, have a 3 year old daughter, and a 6 year old son(another relationship,my son). We had a great relationship, great family and were engaged and always enjoyed each others company.
3 month ago she tells me she doesn't love me, felt this way after we had a miscarriage (ectopic 4 weeks) which was 8 months before she told me this, so 8 months of feeling uncertain about me and then getting more detached as time goes on. Can't get intimate or close as it triggers feelings of the miscarriage. She's on citalopram for depression (possible wrong diagnosis imo) and getting counseling for grief/bereavement. She says she feels numb towards me and empty, as if she's changed and just wishes more than anything we could go back to how we were and that her feelings would come back. She's tried twice since to get close and intimate, both times bought back feelings of being alone and upset with the miscarriage.
We still live together and get on ok, haven't argued in 5 years and even still now haven't had a proper one. But we are currently two single people living together in this limbo, I love her more than I can explain and I'd do anything for her, but I can't live like this forever and just want us to find our way back and have a future together.
So yeah, could it possibly be anxiety? Maybe even PTSD. I know there's an element of depression there but certainly not severe as she looks after herself, still sees friends, eats well, laughs and sings, works etc, the only thing really out of sync is her sleep, she will talk to herself and fidget shuffle around etc. Any replies be greatly appreciated, many thanks, Limb0
Sorry I forgot to add, she has said she loves me as our daughters father, but cannot love me romantically or in the way a bf should love a gf