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Quietvoice, is there really an issue though, with me if waiting and giving her time? How is that relevent to me starting this thread looking for some insight or advice? Like you said you've never had children, neither a miscarriage, I'm possibly about to lose everything I care for, and I find myself...

Thanks quietvoice for your replies. I would never restrict her freedom, if she wants to leave then she can of course. We talked a little this morning, she is still confused and unsure as to what she wants, she tells me her mind is hard to explain, i told her to just be brutally honest, lay it all ou...

...I don't think she wants me to do anything romantically for her, so I do things as a friend to show her that I care. I was thinking of writing her a letter to show her how much I care, but then again she doesn't want me to do anything as a boyfriend, also don't want to make her feel any worse for...

Sorry it just felt like that. It is frustrating yes, if I knew where I was going wrong then of course I'd do what I could to try and change that. By support I mean listen to her when she needs to talk and is feeling down, not pressure or ask too many questions, be understanding, give her space when ...

I've been willing to stay and support her, she's currently getting help. I've just come here for perspective, or if anyone has been through something similar and can relate, I know what I must do but it is easier said than done. I have frustrated her with questions, going around in circles to be lef...

...is that strong because it's lasted 30 years? Time is not an indication of strength. Our relationship was definitely strong. We laughed together all the time. We did caring things for one and other. We didn't argue of stupid inane sh**, we didn't have any drama because there was nothing to cause ...

It was an example I used, mistakes can be made in any relationship, despite the strength of the relationship, and the SO will react in whatever way regardless of the strength of that relationship. Some people may be impulsive and wreckless and make a big mistake even if that relationship was extreme...

Richard, I also put to you this, what exactly would you call a strong relationship? I've known relationships to last for many of years, but the relationship has been in no means strong, arguing all the time, full of deceit and stress and drama, is that strong because it's lasted 30 years? Our relati...

I haven't changed in terms of personality or in terms physically. You have been together 5 years and you have not changed? Change in terms of what though exactly? I've grown a beard? I was already a dad so I didn't have to exactly change into a parent? I learnt how to play chess and cut down on my ...

I don't believe that, sorry, an affair can be a drunken one night stand, to some it could be forgiven to others perhaps not, therefore a single event that has caused the breakdown of a relationship.

You say a relationship can't be destroyed over one event? What about an affair? Also everything I've read in relation to miscarriage and the breakdown of relationships is that it can truly tear a relationship apart. And that's mainly lack of communication. But I'm not a mind reader, I asked her how ...

Thanks again Richard for your reply and insight. We've talked about the relationship, talked about what's changed, and she cannot find any flaws in the relationship neither in me as a partner, we'd go on holiday twice a year, once together and then with the kids. I proposed to her in Amsterdam, I al...

If she could just turn around and tell me bluntly and plainly here are the reasons I don't love you or feel the way I used to about you... Then I'd have closure, reason and I'd be able to accept it and move on with my life. But the fact she says she has no idea, and has no idea why she can't get clo...

Thanks for the reply Richard. I have of course thought about this before, what if it isn't these things such as anxiety or grief etc. What if she doesn't find me physically attractive. And I've asked and asked, to point that she gets frustrated, she's adamant that isn't to do with looks, she said sh...

Hi guys, I'll try keep this short. Looking for some insight, and to see if it's possible my fiancee (ex?) has maybe got anxiety. Been together 5 years, have a 3 year old daughter, and a 6 year old son(another relationship,my son). We had a great relationship, great family and were engaged and always...