I have issues to speak fluently

**Posts:** 1 · by **prefeatmarvin** » Thu May 03, 2012 4:49 pm

Hi everybody
Usually, i am quite person. I don't like to speak except with the persons i already knew. it becomes a real problem because i get always confused when I talk to new people. sometimes, i completely lose my ideas.
when i was student, I did not pay attention to my speaking issues since I was not required to deal with other person than whom I already know. However, as soon as I started to work, I find out the complexity of my problem. In fact, I could not communicate fluently with managers and clients.
Sometimes, I fell like my brain does not communicate well with my mouth. Before, i engage myself in speech, I know exactly what i have to say but I always communicate my ideas in disorder. as a result, I get frustrated and often interrupt my speech I lost my credibility and people consider me as stupid person.
I don't understand why speaking is so hard for me when in the other side I was able to do more difficult things. For example, I have completed a master degree in finance with good GPA. I am good in Math, and Stat.
one day, I have a interview with the company i am currently working. I prepared well the questions. However, I completely failed because i got lost in the middle of the interview.
Speaking is not easy for me, and I am really struggling in my everyday life.
I hope someone have advice for me because I really need help.
Thank's

**Posts:** 2 · by **C4Vendetta** » Sat May 12, 2012 7:55 pm

I don't want to immediately jump into conclusions, but from what you've written it almost appears as if you could have a certain form autism that (almost solely) affects speech. Again, I'm not a doctor and you certainly shouldn't take my word for it but it might be something to check out.

For now, here are some tips to improve your speech:
- Every day stand before a mirror, look at yourself and talk to yourself. It seems ridiculous and at first it will feel quite awkward to do, but trust me, it'll improve your talking a lot in the long run
- Whenever you know you'll have to discuss something: prepare! Preparation is critical to being able to express yourself to the fullest, if you write down the things you want to say and practice them at home everyday for a few minutes, doing it in front of your supervisor will be a whole lot easier.

**Posts:** 59 · by **amaro** » Wed May 16, 2012 4:16 pm

I don't want you to consider a problem if you have a silent personality

our best president I remember was a silent leader; his political vision was the best ever we had and we still cannot find someone like him to lead these " CONFIDENT " people who talk too much but they have no idea to make progress

people think they are too smart and know how to rate GOD creativity but in the end they see they are wrong;

a silent person can become a leader or a virus can become more dangerous then an elephant;

so I want you to not consider a problem if you don't talk too fluently but that doesn't mean to stop improving

**Posts:** 5 · by **Srinivasaraop** » Mon Jun 11, 2012 5:10 am

I am also having same problem as you. This is also may be the reason you too much worried about the future and also you may be considering what other people thinking about your skill set. One thing is just respect your thoughts and do not think about something which is not in your control or not in your hands. No one is permanent in this world and we are all passing clouds. So do not think too much about your problems just cheer.

**Posts:** 33 · by **Toastmasters Scottsdale** » Sun Jun 17, 2012 4:16 am

Hi everyone,

My experience has been to overcome anxiousness, fear (even guilt) by first understanding how it affects my body physically. Then (and more importantly) gauging that against how my body feels when I'm confident/engaged/other positive emotions.

All that means is that I notice how my body reacts when i feel good, focus on that and then think about it whenever the negative starts to creep back in.

For years I've used this syntax technique that I learned from Toni Robbins' Unlimited Power.

It's worked well for me. Try reading Chapter 7, The Syntax of Success from Unlimited Power by Toni Robbins.

Hope that helps!
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**Posts:** 4 · by **broody** » Sat Aug 18, 2012 6:27 am

Hi prefeatmarvin,

I'm curious, is English your second language? If so, I'm in the same boat as you... I came here at a young age and so I really don't have an accent, but I also have a hard time translating my thoughts in to coherent words, especially in a group situation. I think a lot has to do with my anxiety but I definitely think the "semilingual" environment I was brought up in did not help either. My parent's spoke chinese to me at home and I spoke english at school. There are studies that seem to indicate supplanting a dominant language with a secondary language before the first one solidified can cause language issues. I dunno just rattling this off the top of my head...

**Posts:** 2 · by **kuma** » Sat Aug 25, 2012 10:03 am

Yeah, I agree that maybe you are worried too much, not your speaking.
Few years ago, I have the same porblem with you, I think I have problem with speaking.
But one day, I have a topic that I like. This topic is just for fun and I just had 10 minutes to prepare. But I did great, my audience thought I really good at speaking. I couldn't believe it! I realize that it's because I'm feel comfortable, I'm not nervous and I'm speaking with all of my heart. I was truly be myself.
I'm not really good at every presentation, now. I failed a lot but I practice and I think I'm getting better. I think YOU COULD be, too. Just feel free and BE YOURSELF.
Good luck!

**Posts:** 24 · by **bneil** » Thu Sep 13, 2012 1:16 am

Just keep on practicing to speak fluently, it would really help alot. I used to not be able to speak English that fluently, but now since I'm doing it daily at work, I am getting used to it, and feels like its my own native tongue.

**Posts:** 15 · by **David Sydney** » Mon Oct 01, 2012 1:12 pm

prefeatmarvin wrote:Hi everybody
Usually, i am quite person. I don't like to speak except with the persons i already knew. it becomes a real problem because i get always confused when I talk to new people. sometimes, i completely lose my ideas.
when i was student, I did not pay attention to my speaking issues since I was not required to deal with other person than whom I already know. However, as soon as I started to work, I find out the complexity of my problem. In fact, I could not communicate fluently with managers and clients.
Sometimes, I fell like my brain does not communicate well with my mouth. Before, i engage myself in speech, I know exactly what i have to say but I always communicate my ideas in disorder. as a result, I get frustrated and often interrupt my speech I lost my credibility and people consider me as stupid person.
I don't understand why speaking is so hard for me when in the other side I was able to do more difficult things. For example, I have completed a master degree in finance with good GPA. I am good in Math, and Stat.
one day, I have a interview with the company i am currently working. I prepared well the questions. However, I completely failed because i got lost in the middle of the interview.
Speaking is not easy for me, and I am really struggling in my everyday life.
I hope someone have advice for me because I really need help.
Thank's

Try slowly to speak more in front of people that you don't know because its one way to overcome problem of speaking in front of people you don't know...

**Posts:** 5 · by **Henry Jaxx** » Tue Oct 30, 2012 8:31 am

I had a similar issue with public speaking once but I tried correcting it by continuous practice and with determination...

**Posts:** 15 · by **David Sydney** » Mon Nov 05, 2012 8:24 am

the first time I spoke in public, I froze and totally forgot what I am going to say. With practice and a little determination I eventually overcame the fear and now I am very comfortable speaking in public...

**Posts:** 10 · by **Emilia Bell** » Wed Nov 07, 2012 12:28 pm

Sometimes speaking fluently can't be achieved at first try but with continuous practice it will continue to improve...

**Posts:** 36 · by **Wilfred** » Mon Nov 26, 2012 2:33 am

One useful way to improve fluency is read aloud.

Take a book with large print or notes in large letters and practice reading one page, a number of times until such time as you can read it without hesitation.

Then see if you can learn the complete page and recite it.

Do this in front of the television dogs and kids, (you could never get a more disinterested audience).

What this process will do is to give your brain and vocal chords, “mechanical” practice and remove one of the big obstacles.

**Posts:** 43 · by **hypnosisunlocked** » Thu Nov 29, 2012 1:24 pm

Sometimes I have the same problem when speaking with people. I find it difficult to put my thoughts into a structured speech. Taking it slow and making pauses to think after each sentence definitely helps. Consider yourself more of a thinker than a talker, don't worry it's a good thing :wink:

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**Posts:** 36 · by **Wilfred** » Fri Nov 30, 2012 12:57 am

I agree.

Every one seems to complicate things by making it too difficult.

When you learned to ride a bike you practice firstly by just getting on and trying to balance.

Then you move to the next step such as learning to use the brakes.

When we first get on, some of us think we will be an accomplished racing rider immediately.

It just doesn’t work that way, even if you have already bought the Lycra.

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