Dear Everybody,
It is a Thing that almost every Adult is quite certain about, and that is that the Social Groups that seemed so important during Adolescence are of the most Temporary and Transitory Nature. As soon as the Most Defiantly Proud Member of some School’s ‘Ruling Clique’ graduates and goes off to College or Work, he or she leaves the Reality of that Old Group behind as though it were only a mere Dream. Then we often hear Stories told by People who complain that they were Constantly Bullied when they were School Children, but that their “Revenge” was in their subsequent Success. But we need to wonder about such empty ‘Revenge’ on what had Already Dissipated like a Puff of Smoke YEARS before their first Big Paycheck or Conquest of Stage, Screen or Arena – a Revenge on Something that no longer Exists. And then such a Boast of Revenge seems to imply that all of the “Bullies” must have survived only to become abject Failures and sniveling weaklings, or is that simply how they Remember Themselves?
Yes, it is Very Good that these Poor Suffering ‘Victims’ finally find some Peace and Solace, even if by a kind of Predatory Aggrandization of Themselves (‘Now, Who’s the Bigger Bully!?’). But, Was it Entirely Necessary for these Victims to be Victims in the First Place? Perhaps we should examine whether the Cause of their having become Victims were Simple and Preventable Failures in regards to Their Ability to Socialize in Groups.
Yes, some People are more comfortable being self-centered and alone, or that is what they believe, even through all of the inconvenience of Being Bullied. But What If certain Basic Social Skills which would involve only token amounts of their Time and Effort could have secured them not only Peace, but a warm sense of Social Belonging, the Joys of Companionship and Camaraderie, and a good Degree of Practice at being Socially Well Adjusted (though being Socially Well Adjusted could perhaps get in their way of being Very Successful Exploitative and Vengeful Predators later on).
Well, if such is the Case, then the Problem of “Bullying” might better be Fixed by addressing the Problem that the ‘Victims’ have in establishing themselves in Social Groups, and not just by Punishing the children whose mistake may be that they openly resent the Outsiders who seem to despise their “Group”. You see, the ‘Bullies’ may only be suffering from an excess of Loyalty to their Group, and it seems sad if we were to punish everybody who had some excess of Virtue, wouldn’t it?