Emotional Intelligence Increase

I think it is possible to increase your EQ. In the same way as it is possible to learn anything.

NLP is not a crock I have used it myself to cure my own phobic thinking and then have used it to remove same phobia in clients at least 3 times (specific NLP techniques rather than combined with other coaching I mean)

Hello!
I have a son at 17 who I think suffer from Clinical depression. (he also agree). The problem is that he will not talk to anybody and the doctor will give me antideppressive medicin to help him but I am very afraid of this.
What can I do to help him?

Grethe

Thank you for the response Yellow Coaching. I'm inclined to believe it, as some of even the most skeptical sources I've seen have generally contended that it has some kind of worth. Perhaps you could tell me a little more. How exactly does it work? I understand that it's a model of behaviorisms that are generally considered normal, or am I wrong in assuming this?

Just wanted to know a little more. I see the great potential for a thing such as this.

Listen to lots and lots of soul music!

Firstly learn to understand and manage your own emotions.

Secondly, read about body language and basically just imagine what would YOU do if this or that happened to you. Try to get out of your head and understand all the restrictions, dreams, ideas and problems the other person could have...

Emotional intelligence is very intuitive. It is the willing to eliminate your prejudices and opinions for a while, to enter the spirit of the other person...

Dark Angel

It would seem logical that most people would have an increase in EQ overtime.

I personally have been working on my sense of self-emotional stability. My EQ is pretty high (wow that sounds arrogant ) but it is hindered by my lack of confidence in myself.

My own method for increasing EQ is to write down a set of emotions you are feeling throughout the day and then open a thesaurus and find at least 5-10 related words to each emotion word. Then look up each of the related words in the dictionary and relfect on what kind of feelings they represent. It works well in my experience - I didn't read about it but rather just came to the conclusion of practicing in that way myself.

grethe wrote:Hello!
I have a son at 17 who I think suffer from Clinical depression. (he also agree). The problem is that he will not talk to anybody and the doctor will give me antideppressive medicin to help him but I am very afraid of this.
What can I do to help him?

Grethe

Why is he depressed?

Emotional Intelligence is really just a subset of ordinary intelligence.

All emotions stem from thoughts anyway (I challenge you to find one that isn't!), so understanding your emotions is simply being able to trace your chemical feelings back to a thought stem, which is certainly assisted by intelligence.

I think viewing Emotions and Thoughts as being separate things can be very damaging, especially when people view particular emotions as being 'irrational'. There is NO SUCH THING as an irrational emotion.

Emotions that you can't understand are simply that - emotions that you haven't figured out yet. They have their cause, and often if the cause goes all the way back to childhood, the Belief Tree that produces this particular Emotion Fruit is enormous, and very difficult to see (because it's always been there... you'd have to take a step back from your Mind Garden to see it).

So I think that Emotional Intelligence is increased simply through making efforts to understand the thoughts and beliefs that give rise to our emotions.

Any strategy like NLP is simply an aid to achieve this goal.

Correct me if I'm wrong!

alexd181 wrote:My own method for increasing EQ is to write down a set of emotions you are feeling throughout the day and then open a thesaurus and find at least 5-10 related words to each emotion word. Then look up each of the related words in the dictionary and relfect on what kind of feelings they represent. It works well in my experience - I didn't read about it but rather just came to the conclusion of practicing in that way myself.

This is EXACTLY what I'm talking about.... finding words related to an emotion will help to accurately find where abouts the Neuroplant / Belief Tree that's growing an Emotion Fruit is sitting in the Mind Garden. If you know that an emotion is near 'father', 'shovel' and 'boy', chances are it's growing on the "father hit me with a shovel when I was a boy" tree... (bad example, but the point stands...)

When its location is known (its position relative to other Neuroplants) efforts can be made to either deal with it with Mind Weeding strategy or focus on its growth to make the emotions taste better!