[Advice needed] Invasion of privacy

retrograd wrote:My question would be if that is one plausible factor for my lack of productivity and depression.

Speaking from my own experience, my answer is a resounding "Yes!"

Some people more than others absolutely need to have their alone time to reflect, regroup, gather internal energies, and so on.

Do whatever you can to remedy the situation.

retrograd wrote:It feels like I don't have my own "private" or "safe" space, which might be essential for me to be productive or to reach a flow state.

My question would be if that is one plausible factor for my lack of productivity and depression.

One factor? Sure, it can play a small role.

Thousands of college students live in dorm rooms together. I did. They do not have private spaces, yet they are productive.

People are productive in any number of environments without privacy. From the military to prisons, to typical life in large families since 5,000 BC, privacy was not the norm.

Only recently, the last 50 years have individuals become raised and accustomed to having their own room or space. It is a new phenomenon in a resource rich world.

It does or can play a role. We become habituated. Lacking being socialized, relative to peers, the impact on productivity and on mood can be a result.

Should I spend time looking for another place, more private place to live?

It depends on what you want in your future.

If you plan on being a hermit, not having family, or will pursue a profession where you can be isolated and will always have your own private room, then you should look for your own place.

The other path is to use this as an opportunity to work on your issue, to learn how to be productive in a social, familial environment.

Neither path is necessarily better.

@Richard@DecisionSkills & @quietvoice
Thank you both for your input!

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:The other path is to use this as an opportunity to work on your issue, to learn how to be productive in a social, familial environment.

Maybe I forgot to mention, but I am an introverted personality. Is this something intrinsic or can it be changed or trained?

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:If you plan on being a hermit, not having family, or will pursue a profession where you can be isolated and will always have your own private room, then you should look for your own place.

I don't think it is about solitude here. I never enjoyed being alone for an extended period of time. What I am sensing here is a lack of privacy and lack of a own safe space. It is more how @quitevoice pointed out:

quietvoice wrote:Some people more than others absolutely need to have their alone time to reflect, regroup, gather internal energies, and so on.

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Thousands of college students live in dorm rooms together. I did. They do not have private spaces, yet they are productive.

I did live in a college dorm room as well, with other 2 friends in the same room, and that didn't seem to affect my productivity. So this leaves me a bit confused about the issue.

Thank you so much for letting me to brainstorm the ideas with you guys!

I think these issues stem from personal insecurity. They stem from the fact that you feel like you are worthless. This is untrue, you have alot of value in this world. The more you realise that the less insecure you will feel.