interaction with my father

So i have a good relationship with both of my parents but I would like to give an example and explain what im trying to figure out.

I wanted to take the car and he just walk up in rage saying dont take the car i need early morning.
If the reason for me not to take the car is either corredct or wrong
my point is that imminently when he started yelling I held my self not to raise my voice back and start a noisy fight because im really trying to get rid of that behavior of not being able to talk like a decent man and not to shout whenever something goes wrong.

that's the education that i got from home,a bit of barbaric behavior from my parents and also thy are not intellectual enough for a deep conversation.

I would like to hear from some experts here and also users what do you think ?
how do you get out of the cycle?
how to make a restart and try to lose acquired habits of rudeness,Impatience and that general behavior.
we are from Israel with Moroccan roots so yes my parents had not the most protected childhood and neither both of their parents .

P.S
im moving to australia in about a month looking forward moving there permanently.

answer me (: