I was wondering if anyone could give even some slight insight on an on-going issue in my home. I just dont know where to look.
This is about my boyfriend. We've been together about 10 months, we just moved in together. We're both in our 30s.
He refuses to even speak about psychology/mental health/seeing a therapist or psychologist. It makes him angry and I don't know where to look for information.
So my boyfriend is not diagnosed with anything but there is something off, big time.
One thing I noticed is he tends to run on a cycle that works like CLOCK WORK. Every month, at the same time every month, he goes into this maniac spiral where he's in attack/defense mode. EVERYTHING is a problem. He's either accusing me of anything he can possibly find or he's jumping to angrily defend himself over literally anything that comes out of my mouth--whether it's directed at him or not. He'll take offense to anything during this time. Even compliments! He starts vicious fights over the smallest most insignifcant things that he won't drop for DAYS. Then it stops suddenly and he's usually "sorry" and then totally fine for the rest of the month.
It starts over again like a cycle every. single. month. Ive taken account of it for the last FIVE months in a row. It's literally clock work, it freaks me out how accurate it is. Is this a thing? Could this be a sign of something? I know cycles like that are signs of BPD, but I dont *think* the rest of that profile fits him. Also, It seems that he only directs it AT ME. He can be totally normal with everyone else outside of the house during this time (work, friends, etc)
There is much more than what I explained but this is the one thing really that makes me think it could be an actual "disorder". Also, during these times hes very awkward with affection, doesn't seem to want it or want to give it. He makes it a game sometimes to try and get out of cuddling or giving me a kiss, for example. Then after this time is over, never more than a few days, hes EXTREMELY needy and super affectionate.
Any information anyone with experience could give me on this behavior?