Seething Anger

Forgiveness, acceptance and gratitude all dissolve anger, loosen the ego and allow happiness to flow more easily. Are you willing to change?

Please see my reply to Attunement.

BreakingCarter wrote:It's a daily thing I have to think about holding my tongue. Some days are good, other days not so much. I'm opinionated and I don't like taking bs from anyone. Great quality to have but I find myself when I get angry I stay angry... Sometimes I just get frustrated and everything is gravy. Other times... I scare those closest to me.

I've never laid my hands on someone out of pure rage, nor do I hold any belief I might or would. Anger though has cost me much coming up and now in this real life it could ruin everything, It's just lately everything sucks, Wheres the positivism, where is my real smile? How do I get it back? I'm taking it step by step, tis is the first Time I've ever posted anything. Any advice or words of wisdom would be appreciated.

Stay Happy

You remember your Shakespeare from school don’t you… “nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so”. And now think about whether it is really just all your usual customary negative thinking… your thinking in the same way you’ve been thinking ever since you were an inexperienced and unknowledgeable child… that dark and gloomy thinking that is the source of all you troubles. No, not the things themselves, but the way you are accustomed to judge those things and put a negative and hostile spin on everything… well forgive me if I am wrong but this hunch about you seems like it might be right. It is certainly right about most other angry people.

But do we really need to guess? Look at your post. You “don’t like taking BS from people”. What is that? Is it BS when you mention your concerns to other people? Or is it just BS when they mention their concerns to you? To have Peace in the World we really need to let people talk, and we really need to listen. No, not to just give ourselves time to figure out what smart comeback to come up with. There is no loss of Honor involved in letting people talk and listening to them respectfully. Isn’t that what you expect from other people?

Well, that is just one thing. But it may indicate an inclination you might have toward judging every event in your life as being on the negative side of things.

You can turn all this around but you just have to watch your thinking and stop yourself whenever you find yourself going toward the Dark Side.

Here is what you can do: Start reading, daily, never skip a day, some anger management books. Look at some of my other posts… I’m always recommending books, and it may raise suspicions that I might be one of the authors trying to drum up business, so just look at what I have recommended or go to one of the Big On Line Retailers and bring up their anger management section and read the reviews, and buy whatever seems to be your fit.

But, yes, the Anger Management Therapies work… even the Self Help therapies, just as long as you are willing to discipline yourself and put in the time. Good luck. Let me know how it goes.