I am really using this as a forum to rationalise everything that is going on in my head, but I could also do with help.
I have always suffered from low self esteem, I've been bullied for being ugly or fat. Being called a slag because I developed earlier than the average teenager. Being sexually abused at 14 didn't help. I spent my whole teens being used by guys, just for sex, never feeling wanted or loved, even by my boyfriend at the time - he showed how much he loved me by getting someone else pregnant. Ever so recently I have got into a relationship, I have spent every day speaking to him, and I am so in love, and he tells me he loves me too, we are even moving in together.
The issue is, I don't feel attractive, I have a seriously toxic relationship with food, so I am not confident with the way I look, and the more depressed I get about it the more I eat. I know we are doing all these together and moving into a committed relationship, but he doesn't make me feel beautiful, or wanted, or loved. He hasn't said he feels this way, but it's what he hasn't said that causes me to have doubts. I know I shouldn't rely on him to make me feel good about myself, but if he makes me feel beautiful then I'll start to feel better about myself too. He will only ever say I look 'cute' who wants to be with someone who looks 'cute' I want to be irresistible to him, I want him to think I'm sexy, I'm amazing, I'm beautiful. How do I know how he feels? He won't have these kind of conversations, he will say I'm being silly, that he loves me, that I need to stop.
I'm stuck.