I married but falling for a coworker and more....

LeoMel wrote:I will go to the west coast and try to fall in love again with my husband.

I am very glad to hear that and I give you credit. Obviously every marriage requires work and there will always be someone else who tempts you(no matter who you're married to). But at least you have a good man and, especially since you have a child together, I truly believe that you are doing the right thing here. I wish the three of you the very best.

Co worker aside, did you want to leave your marriage before this happened?

You may say that it will be no sex, but believe me if you keep going on, sex is going to happen, one thing will just leave to another.
I know that after all the time you spent with your husband you've come to know a lot of his flaws, but try to look at his qualities and of how much he loves you, it might seem that this affair your having feels so good and feels like nothing your husband ever gives you, but once you stepped the line be sure that this man you're getting involved will just use you and leave you, and then you'll live with guilt and found out how much damage you've done to your home, and because of the example you gave you're child might grow up believing that marriage is a lie, this won't just affect you.
I believe that once there is a betrayal it's better to quit the marriage.

What you're saying doesn't add up. Sorry to be blunt. You say in one sentence that your family will move and you will try to fall in love with your husband yet you state you are hoping your coworker follows to show his commitment?

I would suggest that if you divorce your husband you also divorce your fling. Neither of you are respecting your families by behaving like this. Be honest enough to go to counseling or end it. You can't justify you have feelings for each other, other than a physical attraction. People will always be attracted to other people but acting on the impulses isn't meaningful or real.

All that's left is pain, hurt, and loneliness to all involved.

How did it go? Did the situation resolve itself? I hope everything worked out for the best.

Life can be very difficult sometimes.

You should reconnect with your partner.