I have learned from "How to win frineds..." book to not criticize if I want to make friends or get what I want from people.
So I try to not criticize. But still I had feedback from friends that I was f***ing the mind when I asked question in the job interview - is there always the smoke in the office, I have read it is unhealthy. The smoke was of incense.
Also recently in one forum I saw some charts and after few times of trying to undersntad those charts - I have asked: "am I the only one who does not understand those charts" ? The author of those charts replied - sounded angry - "before you criticize, post your own".
I could answer - "where do you see criticism? " he made me angry because he accuses me of something I have not done. But maybe I have done? I did not answer because he might be good and so I do not want to make him angry even more, I want to learn from him.
If question is a criticism, then how can I know what are criticisms and what are not?
And how do I get information without asking that question? Especially this does not make sense - I need information but I cannot ask because I will be accused of criticising.
I had read a wikipedia article and it state that its is not good to never criticize. But how to criticize good, from what I have read sounded complicated. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criticism
When I look at Trump for example , it feels like he does not care and criticizes however he wants. Why he can not care? because he is president of USA?