Hey everybody!
The case is that I feel I my self-confidence is decreasing. Long story "short":
I used to be a short (173cm), skinny guy with glasses, who was not really good with women, but at least I am pretty social and was getting along well with people. I managed to attract a cute, nice girlfriend anyway - we stayed together for 6 years, then she broke up with me. I was feeling really bad for a while, started to do some sports, stopped smoking and was getting in shape.
It was still hard to meet girls. People would describe me as a funny guy, but I am not too good at flirting though... Anyway, I managed to pick up another girl, who was reaaally beatiful and hot . I couldn't believe it. It lasted around 6 months and she broke up with me. During the time we were together I was feeling super confident and was feeling the attraction from the girls in the office and parties, but was not interested as was in relationship. I still was keeping up with sport, got in decent shape so was feeling pretty good about myself. I had an affair with another girl who was really into me, but I was interested in her mainly because of sex, so decided to quit and search for a partner who satisfies my other needs as well.
That was 2 years ago. In the beginning of that period I had a couple of dates which did not really evolve. Once there was a 1 night stand which was cool, but pretty much that's it.
And in the last 1 year started to become worse. Despite the fact that I'm still doing sports, got a really cool job, travelling a lot, I am feeling that the girls are less interested in me,so I start to loose confidence and because of it I feel even less interest from girls because of what I loose confidence etc.. the spiral goes on.
I tried online dating as well, and getting around 1% response rate... I would like to think that my messages are neither creepy or boring... so there must be some other reason.
I wonder what is the problem! I understand that it's kind of a weak to wait for girl's approval and I shouldn't depend on that. But the lack of respond on online dating sites makes me think I don't look good and/or that I am short.
On the last date, I spent few hours with a woman, who refused to meet me again, saying: "You are really really sweet but bla bla..." It felt like kicking in my balls..
I know that I must man up, get my sh** together and keep trying, but had to get off this of my chest!
Thanks for the forum and all the best to you!