She’s a cheater but I can’t let her go.

Postby mycheatergf » Tue Jul 10, 2018 10:40 am

My girlfriend had been cheating on me when we were still 3 months until we reached 7th. Even though she’s like that, I still don’t have the courage to let her go. My friends would always advise me to break up with her because she’s a liar and a cheater. However, I can’t let their plea happen. My friends started to ignore me. I know they only care; I just so love her and I know she loves me too. We’re turning 1 year by next month and I believe she had changed. I know she had even though some of my friends would come and tell me they saw my girlfriend on a foreign socials having fun meeting new people. Everyone of us can still change if we want to. For a long time, I have been choosing anyone’s happiness over mine. Is it wrong to choose my happiness and myself this time? I love her; what else can I do?
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Postby Guess what? » Tue Jul 10, 2018 11:28 am

If it would have happened once I could understand, but keep cheating in 4 months is a clear allarm, in my opinion.
She can change, but you can't be sure and she will be able to hurt you more; like cheating another time and then leaving you 'cause "you are the problem".

I have been left just for a kiss; some people are ready to leave someone for nothing; while you can't leave her after this? There is a reason, and maybe I know which, but it seems you are not even looking for the option to leave her.
So, how do you act with her? Do you think to be very sticky or showing to care too much about her?

You know, someone else here told me a right thing, in love the one who has more power is the one who loves less; but in the case you love less you don't really care to have much power. So it is possible that seeing that you are really fell in love, causes in her the feeling to do whatever she wants, knowing that her little puppy will come back.

I'm not talking about being indefferent, though.
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Postby quietvoice » Tue Jul 10, 2018 12:10 pm

mycheatergf wrote: I know she had even though some of my friends would come and tell me they saw my girlfriend on a foreign socials having fun meeting new people.

This has that vague scent of the "foreign dating site" spambot.
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Postby mycheatergf » Wed Jul 11, 2018 6:09 am

Guess what? wrote:If it would have happened once I could understand, but keep cheating in 4 months is a clear allarm, in my opinion.
She can change, but you can't be sure and she will be able to hurt you more; like cheating another time and then leaving you 'cause "you are the problem".

I have been left just for a kiss; some people are ready to leave someone for nothing; while you can't leave her after this? There is a reason, and maybe I know which, but it seems you are not even looking for the option to leave her.
So, how do you act with her? Do you think to be very sticky or showing to care too much about her?

You know, someone else here told me a right thing, in love the one who has more power is the one who loves less; but in the case you love less you don't really care to have much power. So it is possible that seeing that you are really fell in love, causes in her the feeling to do whatever she wants, knowing that her little puppy will come back.

I'm not talking about being indefferent, though.



Thanks for this response. You've brought light to my troubled mind.
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