Wow, I'm so glad I found this site. I can't wait to start helping people out with my opinions on psychology, that's actually what I want to go to school for....I hate having my first post being a question when I haven't taken the time to check out other people's posts yet, but I'm really upset right now.
Today I couldn't help but acknowledge just how much I tend to label people. It doesn't take me very long, I'm always very fair, I think...but whenever I talk to somebody for more than a few minutes I usually have already made my assumption on, not who they are, but whether I want to associate with them or not. I don't want to talk to people that I don't want to talk to. Is that wrong? I have done this ever since I was a kid and I'm 20 years old now. For instance, when I was 7 my mom would go over to her friends house and my mom's friend would have a kid that I was always had to play with. He was always into spots and liked to ruff house. I hated being touched by this kid, let alone ruff housed, and sports wasn't my thing. I more liked sitting still and engaging in maybe a board game or book. I hated it whenever my mom went over to this kids house. The kid asked me if I was his best friend at one time, and I lied and said yes because I knew it would hurt his feelings if I told him the truth. I know I must have at least a heart if do those kind of things, but lately I've been finding it harder and harder to that sort of stuff.
Don't get me wrong, I have a couple of close friends in my life that I get along with great. I'm not antisocial, I enjoy the company of good friends, but it seems to me that over 90 percent of the people I meet are people that I don't want to have anything to do with. Today at work I didn't want to talk to ANYBODY, except my boss that I get along with great, and maybe one other person. Does that make me inadequate ? Today at work I tried to be social, but I was bombarded with thoughts like, " This person is stupid, why are you talking to him?" or, "This person is clearly an idiot", "Man, she is so annoying, is she clueless of the hints I give out that I don't want to talk to her?" I am literally a dick to some of these people in hopes that they will leave me alone, but they don't seem to understand! That's why I'm worried about myself. It's not like I'm a snob. I don't think that I'm "better" than any of these people, I just flat out don't want to talk to them.
I'm honest with myself, which is why I don't see why I can't be honest with them. In fact, I'm probably harder on myself than most people. For instance: I know that I'm smart, but I lack common sense, I'm good at my job, but it's easy (and actually alot of people suck at it, which astounds me at times.) I get along with people, but only people I like. I'm cynical, but I care about the well being of people I love. I could go on, but my point is that I am willing to admit what kind of a person I am.
I just want to know...not maybe so much what people think of my situation, but if anybody has as much of a problem with labeling people as me. I know how to be social and all that. It's like I have a picture in my head of what I'm supposed to say to these people, but I just don't want too. It's not like I don't give them a chance, but when they prove to me that they are somebody that I don't want to associate with what am I supposed to do? Should I associate with them only when I have to, or should I make an effort?
My only thought are that I'm in the wrong place, I live in Saint Louis, Missouri - America- and I know I don't want to be here. Does anybody have any thoughts?