23 year old attacks father

another# wrote:In the last 7 yrs i have been attack with and without weapons by my son 10 times, i think its time for tuff love, i kicked him out but he still is under the influnce with drugs and tried again, i think when ihis mother calls and tries to be a mother to him, he takes it as "i can fight dad and mom is still there for me". i think this is not a safe way of tuff love, any advise? should she also just let him go for awhile and stand by me?

yea cant really find any help topics on line about the subject, kinda scary.

Sorry for nothing being able to give you much help. I have no experience on that. My guess is that yes, mom and dad should be together on this with the same message to him. His violent behavior should not be supported in any circustances. I think you could seek for professional help with someone with experience with addiction, you probably have a group on your town or church, this is serious and dangerous to both of you. Wish you and your family the best.

I've got anger issues myself and I have both been verbally and physically violent to family members in the past. I think the reason I used to lash out on my family members was because I knew deep down that they would always be there in the end so I could do what I want to them, until they started to retaliate so I backed down.

I think both parents should be supporting each other in this matter so you both send the same messege out so your son doesn't think that he can mess with one of you and still have the other one to lean on. He needs to realise that there are consequences to his actions from both sides and not just from you.

I think once he finds that he won't have his mother to lean on then he will stop abusing you in the fear of losing you both. And as you mentioned his drugs problem, that obviously plays a part in his violent behaviour so I suggest you seek out professional help so you can tackle all of his problems. Hope this helped.

Saii x