Hi all. I am a 35 year old woman living in Europe who recently filed for divorce. For many years i felt i should do that but i didn t have the courage. Few months ago, except my own frustrations that were pushing me to do that, i met somebody that gave me the courage to do it. i started a strictly sex relation with him but i realised soon that i am not that kind and that i am starting to get attached to him. Was something so new and so beautiful: he kept on telling me how hot and smart i am...how lucky he is to have me in his bed..in the same time he never gave me any reason to believe that we could have something more than a sex relation. He loved my shoes(r sexy) the way i dress...we were sexting for hours, sex was always great, super passionate. Later...after i filed for divorce he kept on asking if i am ok..how do i feel abt it and so on, like he really cared and that i guess it made me feel that we could actually have more than sex..On the other hand..if i analyse the situation...i am almost sure i would not be happy with him as he is arogant and selfish. I do not understand why i have these feelings.I know, i am aware(without being vain) that i am a smart good looking woman, but if i don't get compliments or a hungry look fm him one day(we work toghether) i get upset..start feeling stupid, i am dying for a text fm him to prove me that he saw me that day. it's just so strange..i am smart and very good in my work, people apreciate me a lot but i am feeling lonely and sad and "small" and insignifiant just because he didnt make me a compliment. Last time i invited him to my place he replied short"not tonight". It hurt my ego big time. I am depressed since then.I saw him 2 days ago with a woman in a shop..not necessarily a girlfriend (as i know him he has a very dificult caracter and just passed through a hard breakup) - it made me feel so
angry and ugly and sad. Also i have to mention that i don't really have friends to hang out with so i guess it's another reason for my happiness to depend so much on his appreciation.I get very upset and i suffer like hell when he doesn't appreaciate enough my work(or at least like this to seems to me), i am making super efforts at work to prove how good i am and that i am a valuable individual in his team...Cannot find something to really motivate me to move on without his compliment and appreciation, to put an end to this "thing" that we have and just ignore him...Help ?
